What you're talking about is like a visually-disabled person having "friends" who deliberately steer them into walls or swimming pools, or a deaf person having "friends" who make fun of their disability or mock them right in front of their face.
Whatever other problems you may have, you clearly have huge difficulties finding decent human beings to spend your time with, and the standards you set for the title of "friend" are extremely low.
To start with the least of the four evils, "Friend" 4 sounds like she's simply stupid and insensitive. To use the same parallel I did above, she's like someone who meets someone who's deaf, and then says in her ear, "Can you hear this?" and when the deaf person can't, goes on to shout louder and louder. You've said you have memory problems. A real friend with any intelligence would simply accept this and take it into account in future, not poke and prod and test you.
"Friend" 3 is either a malicious toad or incredibly immature. Probably both.
"Friend" 2 - the one you say is "sweet" - who repeatedly asks you the same questions may just be happy to find someone he can talk to, since his conversational skills are crap. Or there may be something more malicious going on. From what you say, it's hard to tell.
"Friend" 1 was never a real friend - he's just an assclown you happened to meet and who latched on to you for his own purposes.
I hate to say this, but you are the perfect victim. Inadequate, manipulative, vicious people can attach themselves to you, learn how to make you do what they want, get their sick, immature kicks, and then come back tomorrow to repeat or escalate.
But really - not everyone is like that. The world is full of wonderful, caring people. Yet somehow you seem to have picked a set of damaged, immature, manipulative people as your "friends".
I don't know how you're going to do it, but you need to find decent human beings to be real friends with. True friends care about each other and look out for each other. Someone who's visually disabled knows that a real friend will help them cope with a world designed for sighted people. A real friend would steer you away from people who want to use and abuse you.
Thank you for the insight for each of my "friends", yeah you're right don't think I should be calling them that anymore.
Yes I'm actually under the uni special needs group for support. So in a way what they're doing is really sad and makes my life much more difficult and miserable.
I shouldn't have told them about my memory but I wanted the name calling to stop.
And yeah he can be sweet but I don't know he's true intentions either. He was getting frustrated with me the other day when I tried to play overwatch with him, I had forgotten alot of basic stuff like navigating on my account and adding friends or customising characters, he got fed up with helping me and swore and quit the game. Took me a week to download the game too since I kept forgetting, but he was really patient with me for that. But even my family gets frustrated trying to help me sometimes so can't blame him.
I talked to him today and noted down second time he told me I was mean to him one day. And I apologized but I can't remember and when I ask he doesn't tell me what I said. Just says don't worry about it I still love you. So yeah he's a true mystery.
Yeah really sad how friend 1 turned out he was there when my ex was getting abusive with me. And he helped to stop it. Really surprised and hurt he's doing this...
They seemed nice at the beginning, but yeah guess I suck at picking friends and partners...
Yeah my mum wants me to try and make some new friends at church (new church and youth group) But I don't know.
Hope I can meet some nice people soon, I really need a break from this crazy situation they keep putting me in almost everyday. Yeah I have met a nice friend who did help me alot but she's sadly in Spain now. Funny since she love to talk to me, and she doesn't mind me repeating my self at all. Also 1 online friend who I've been talking to for a year now. He's very nice and kind and helps to remind me of things and both of them don't even know about my condition but I think they figured it out.
IIN that everyone is trying to take advantage of my short term memory?
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This is all really screwed-up.
What you're talking about is like a visually-disabled person having "friends" who deliberately steer them into walls or swimming pools, or a deaf person having "friends" who make fun of their disability or mock them right in front of their face.
Whatever other problems you may have, you clearly have huge difficulties finding decent human beings to spend your time with, and the standards you set for the title of "friend" are extremely low.
To start with the least of the four evils, "Friend" 4 sounds like she's simply stupid and insensitive. To use the same parallel I did above, she's like someone who meets someone who's deaf, and then says in her ear, "Can you hear this?" and when the deaf person can't, goes on to shout louder and louder. You've said you have memory problems. A real friend with any intelligence would simply accept this and take it into account in future, not poke and prod and test you.
"Friend" 3 is either a malicious toad or incredibly immature. Probably both.
"Friend" 2 - the one you say is "sweet" - who repeatedly asks you the same questions may just be happy to find someone he can talk to, since his conversational skills are crap. Or there may be something more malicious going on. From what you say, it's hard to tell.
"Friend" 1 was never a real friend - he's just an assclown you happened to meet and who latched on to you for his own purposes.
I hate to say this, but you are the perfect victim. Inadequate, manipulative, vicious people can attach themselves to you, learn how to make you do what they want, get their sick, immature kicks, and then come back tomorrow to repeat or escalate.
But really - not everyone is like that. The world is full of wonderful, caring people. Yet somehow you seem to have picked a set of damaged, immature, manipulative people as your "friends".
I don't know how you're going to do it, but you need to find decent human beings to be real friends with. True friends care about each other and look out for each other. Someone who's visually disabled knows that a real friend will help them cope with a world designed for sighted people. A real friend would steer you away from people who want to use and abuse you.
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Thank you for the insight for each of my "friends", yeah you're right don't think I should be calling them that anymore.
Yes I'm actually under the uni special needs group for support. So in a way what they're doing is really sad and makes my life much more difficult and miserable.
I shouldn't have told them about my memory but I wanted the name calling to stop.
And yeah he can be sweet but I don't know he's true intentions either. He was getting frustrated with me the other day when I tried to play overwatch with him, I had forgotten alot of basic stuff like navigating on my account and adding friends or customising characters, he got fed up with helping me and swore and quit the game. Took me a week to download the game too since I kept forgetting, but he was really patient with me for that. But even my family gets frustrated trying to help me sometimes so can't blame him.
I talked to him today and noted down second time he told me I was mean to him one day. And I apologized but I can't remember and when I ask he doesn't tell me what I said. Just says don't worry about it I still love you. So yeah he's a true mystery.
Yeah really sad how friend 1 turned out he was there when my ex was getting abusive with me. And he helped to stop it. Really surprised and hurt he's doing this...
They seemed nice at the beginning, but yeah guess I suck at picking friends and partners...
Yeah my mum wants me to try and make some new friends at church (new church and youth group) But I don't know.
Hope I can meet some nice people soon, I really need a break from this crazy situation they keep putting me in almost everyday. Yeah I have met a nice friend who did help me alot but she's sadly in Spain now. Funny since she love to talk to me, and she doesn't mind me repeating my self at all. Also 1 online friend who I've been talking to for a year now. He's very nice and kind and helps to remind me of things and both of them don't even know about my condition but I think they figured it out.