That's seriously not cool especially since they are your friends. Look as soon as you realize they are taking advantage of you, you should have dropped them out of your life. You can make new friends who will actually treat you like you deserve.
I suggest you should keep a notepad with you and write down important things and what those "friends" of your do on it. So when you are with a friend you can look at it to remind yourself of the stuff that happened before. But don't tell them about it it should only be for you to know about. You can just write the date and what happened between you and someone and key points about it. I also recommend just to only tell people who are very close to you about your memory. Instead of just normal friends to avoid problems like what you are dealing with now.
I remember what it was. He'd make me tell him constantly what my first ex did to me, with the physical abuse and sexual assualt. Then he'd act all supportive after while I cried. I didn't even realise how many times he made me do that. Also said in my dairy that he told me he had a fetish for crying or physical weak/sick people and he also stated on another day that he had no problem telling me since I'll probably forget about it tomorrow...
Yeah it is.
I've accidently let him back into my life he checks up on me almost daily now, to make sure I'm okay.
He was really sorry like almost crying, apologizing for things he's done, even things I haven't recorded down in my dairy and can't recall now...(only wrote he apoligized for alot of stuff I forgot about) But I can forget easly, but don't know if I should forgive... He's the only one who checks up on me, maybe I need to find another support for my physical and mental health.
Only problem is he knows where I live and he wouldn't leave me alone when I broke up with him. He threatened to spread my personal info and things I've kept secret from friends and family. But if he's really changed maybe he wouldn't do that now.
The problem is I barely have any friends and it's hard for me to make new ones. People find it hard remembering new names I can't even remember who the person is if I only met them once.I might remember their face at first but everything else about them has holes in it.
Even for got my friend's name yesterday the one who likes me. I've been friends with him for almost 2 months now...
And thank you so much for the tips! I really appreciate it. I'll start making one now and go through my dairy. And yes good point I'll keep this secret.
But is it okay to tell my significant other? My first ex found it really annoying how I forgot simple things and important to things too and that made him treat me like a child. I told my last ex because he kept belittling me about my intelligence and was baffled when I forgot about something really important I told him. Um think it was something heavy which he also used against me, I forgot how mean he was to me. I'm so glad I thought of writing a dairy.
You can tell your significant other as long as you really trust them. See I learned the hard way to be careful about who you trust and what you trust them with. I was betrayed by my own "best friend" in high school and it changed me a little bit on the inside when it comes to trust.
That's why I said don't tell your friends, you never know if they go as far as taking the notepad when you're not looking so you'll think you lost it or forget about it. There are many bad people in this world that come in all shapes, sizes and wear all kinds of mask. If they would easily take advantage of your memory then don't trust them with anything else. I know I might be over thinking it that's an issue of mine, but it's never bad to be careful.
It's really up to you who you tell but I really recommend to keep the group small and to think twice. Either way good luck I hope things go well for you.
Yeah you're right I do trust people too much and then I get hurt. Sadly there are too many, wish I knew all the kind ones.
Yeah I don't mind having one good friend, like I used to in primary school.
That's true I wouldn't be surprised anymore if they tried that.
I'll started taking notes on them and I guess the best way to cut of contact is to slowly stop seeing them and ignore their calls and texts.
Thank you I hope the best for you too in years to come.
IIN that everyone is trying to take advantage of my short term memory?
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That's seriously not cool especially since they are your friends. Look as soon as you realize they are taking advantage of you, you should have dropped them out of your life. You can make new friends who will actually treat you like you deserve.
I suggest you should keep a notepad with you and write down important things and what those "friends" of your do on it. So when you are with a friend you can look at it to remind yourself of the stuff that happened before. But don't tell them about it it should only be for you to know about. You can just write the date and what happened between you and someone and key points about it. I also recommend just to only tell people who are very close to you about your memory. Instead of just normal friends to avoid problems like what you are dealing with now.
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I remember what it was. He'd make me tell him constantly what my first ex did to me, with the physical abuse and sexual assualt. Then he'd act all supportive after while I cried. I didn't even realise how many times he made me do that. Also said in my dairy that he told me he had a fetish for crying or physical weak/sick people and he also stated on another day that he had no problem telling me since I'll probably forget about it tomorrow...
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Shit! That is seriously messed up. Like highly manipulative psychopath-level messed up.
He knowingly pushed buttons to make you feel miserable and worthless just to get his kicks. Only someone with zero empathy could do that.
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Yeah it is.
I've accidently let him back into my life he checks up on me almost daily now, to make sure I'm okay.
He was really sorry like almost crying, apologizing for things he's done, even things I haven't recorded down in my dairy and can't recall now...(only wrote he apoligized for alot of stuff I forgot about) But I can forget easly, but don't know if I should forgive... He's the only one who checks up on me, maybe I need to find another support for my physical and mental health.
Only problem is he knows where I live and he wouldn't leave me alone when I broke up with him. He threatened to spread my personal info and things I've kept secret from friends and family. But if he's really changed maybe he wouldn't do that now.
The problem is I barely have any friends and it's hard for me to make new ones. People find it hard remembering new names I can't even remember who the person is if I only met them once.I might remember their face at first but everything else about them has holes in it.
Even for got my friend's name yesterday the one who likes me. I've been friends with him for almost 2 months now...
And thank you so much for the tips! I really appreciate it. I'll start making one now and go through my dairy. And yes good point I'll keep this secret.
But is it okay to tell my significant other? My first ex found it really annoying how I forgot simple things and important to things too and that made him treat me like a child. I told my last ex because he kept belittling me about my intelligence and was baffled when I forgot about something really important I told him. Um think it was something heavy which he also used against me, I forgot how mean he was to me. I'm so glad I thought of writing a dairy.
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You can tell your significant other as long as you really trust them. See I learned the hard way to be careful about who you trust and what you trust them with. I was betrayed by my own "best friend" in high school and it changed me a little bit on the inside when it comes to trust.
That's why I said don't tell your friends, you never know if they go as far as taking the notepad when you're not looking so you'll think you lost it or forget about it. There are many bad people in this world that come in all shapes, sizes and wear all kinds of mask. If they would easily take advantage of your memory then don't trust them with anything else. I know I might be over thinking it that's an issue of mine, but it's never bad to be careful.
It's really up to you who you tell but I really recommend to keep the group small and to think twice. Either way good luck I hope things go well for you.
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Yeah you're right I do trust people too much and then I get hurt. Sadly there are too many, wish I knew all the kind ones.
Yeah I don't mind having one good friend, like I used to in primary school.
That's true I wouldn't be surprised anymore if they tried that.
I'll started taking notes on them and I guess the best way to cut of contact is to slowly stop seeing them and ignore their calls and texts.
Thank you I hope the best for you too in years to come.