I hate to admit this but I was probably guilty of that when I was much younger because I came from a dysfunctional family and was very sheltered. I cannot stress enough how much therapy and twelve step work for codependency can help help with these sorts of problems. I feel that within the last few years I've changed myself for the better and hope I can continue to do so.
I used to feel obligated to help people who were overly demanding and pushy because I was behaving in a codependent manner myself. Now when I get around people like that I just feel very drained, tired and resentful so I choose to just detach from them for the sake of my own sanity and serenity. Sure a lot of calls and texts go unanswered but that's what I need to do to care for and protect myself. If a needy, selfish and demanding person feels hurt by my actions that's just too bad. I believe that God gives all of us free will so those sorts of people are free to seek out help from qualified therapists and the like so they can improve themselves if they so choose. If they choose to do nothing then thats on them and not my problem.
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I hate to admit this but I was probably guilty of that when I was much younger because I came from a dysfunctional family and was very sheltered. I cannot stress enough how much therapy and twelve step work for codependency can help help with these sorts of problems. I feel that within the last few years I've changed myself for the better and hope I can continue to do so.
I used to feel obligated to help people who were overly demanding and pushy because I was behaving in a codependent manner myself. Now when I get around people like that I just feel very drained, tired and resentful so I choose to just detach from them for the sake of my own sanity and serenity. Sure a lot of calls and texts go unanswered but that's what I need to do to care for and protect myself. If a needy, selfish and demanding person feels hurt by my actions that's just too bad. I believe that God gives all of us free will so those sorts of people are free to seek out help from qualified therapists and the like so they can improve themselves if they so choose. If they choose to do nothing then thats on them and not my problem.