Is it normal that , at 36years old, i hate giving bj's

Is it normal that , At 36years old, I HATE giving BJ's? It's not like I'm willing to let my BF go down on me while NOT returning the favour, It's just that oral ain't my thing. Does it HAVE to be part of the deal? Should I HAVE to do something I don't enjoy JUST to keep my BF happy, OR should my BF accept that it's not something I enjoy, end off?

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Based on 56 votes (31 yes)
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  • lonewolf1253

    Oral sex isn't normal to begin with from a biological perspective. It's just something people started doing over time because some find it enjoyable. if you don't like doing it, then don't. Whether you need a new partner or not is up to you.

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    • LionsMane

      I agree with this

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  • Boojum

    There's no particular list of sexual activities that have to be "part of the deal" in order for a couple to have a relationship they're both happy with.

    The people involved have to each decide what they really need, what they can take or leave, and what they definitely do not want. Sometimes those preferences clash, and then the people have to decide how far they're willing to compromise for the sake of the relationship as a whole.

    Almost all the women I've been with have really enjoyed giving oral, but it wouldn't have been a deal-breaker for me if they hadn't. I would not have wanted them to do something they hated just because they believed it was the only way we would stay together.

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  • rayb12

    You don't have to do anything, but its up to him whether he wants to be with you or not.

    Men and women are different so it isn't a fair comparison to think it is like if he stopped giving you oral. It is more analogous to if he lost his personality traits or behavior s that you found attractive.

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  • bogbrush

    It's not called a job for nothing. Lots of women hate it.

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  • Don't do it if you don't enjoy it. Simple as that.

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  • Handyman

    Only do what is acceptable to you, but do that well...

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  • NinjaKitten

    Well its not like you have to give a bj to him but be considerate. If you love him. You will help his sexual desires if he helps yours. Cant give him a bj? Tell him you wanna ride that cock instead :3
    If u dont wanna do that either... what do you want from life?..
    Go chase after that instead

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  • LuxM4G

    You should see the movie I Love You, Man from 2009, directed by John Hamburg.

    http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1155056

    You have to return the favour, lock that tongue of his on you and be sure that is it reciprocal.

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    Yes, it's normal. If you don't enjoy it, don't do it. If he can't accept that, leave him.

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  • JonathanOo

    many people hate it. Don't let it bother you

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  • NormalBabyGirl

    Your not married, he's just a boyFriend,,,tell him to frig off

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  • Not sure if normal or not, but I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone like that. It might be harder to find a man for you.

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  • Scucci

    41 married male here.
    I don’t think it’s abnormal for a woman to feel this was but I really wish women would understand what an emotional high you girl give to us when sexual favors are given enthusiacticly.
    It’s like classic Cheap Trick song, we will cook, clean, give you massages, take you out, but you stuff, tell you all the wonderful things you deserve IF you just make us feel like you WANT us.
    No joke ladies. I just told you the secret.

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    • GeniusGirl

      So your that a man needs to feel special, BUT a lady can be bought??

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      • Scucci

        No it’s not Either, Or...

        What I’m saying is you girls can have it all by simply making us feel “excited”. We will literally do anything you ask if you make us feel like you “want” us.

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  • GeniusGirl

    Think I need to put this out there, My partner and I have a brilliant sex life. By no means does the lack of oral affect our relationship. I asked the question purely for myself. And on the whole I'm pretty happy with the response from you guys.
    😊 Thank you

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  • PingPong69

    Sounds normal, however with that said don't expect this to go over real well with your significant other. Would be devastating to be cut off from blow jobs over night. If you don't think that what happens in the bedroom plays a role in the health of a relationship then you are naive.

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  • Dustyair

    I haven't met a woman who didn't outwardly hate it. But I have had some pretty horrible BJs, it's like what the hell are you doing, for GODS SAKE STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • CDmale4fem

    Ok, Ok, hold on everybody. Before we all jump to conclusions I shall refer to the "Relationship sex for dummies". Hmm everything I'm seeing and reading seems to point to one thing. In fact its a very short book, 1 page. I will quote it here, ahem,
    1) "No matter what the guy says or foes, its bullshit and he's lying.
    2) No matter who says what, he's still full of shit. He will do as she says and her word on any subject is final, because why? Because she has the breasts and she has the vagina.
    3) Man cannot live on masturbation alone.
    While in a relationship no where on earth or in the stars is it carved in stone ad to what sexual acts anyone shall provide one who asks.

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    • Pumpurrnickel

      Men can indeed live on masturbation alone. How would you even die from not having sex?

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      • RoseIsabella

        No one has ever died from not having sex. It's completely ridiculous when people act like they can't live without sex.

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        • Kevinevan

          I haven't had sex in 8 years and I gotta say it makes me pretty grumpy.

          I might not out and out die but I may reach a point where I kill myself.

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        • CozmoWank

          I haven't had it in quite some time and It's making me sick.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Well, phrasing it that way actually does sound better.

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      • LuxM4G

        I sure can live on masturbation alone, and i wouldn't have to if i was a celibatarian, asexual, a priest, monk or a eunuch.

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        • TheMightyOz

          I am a eunuch. I HAVE to have sex, but I can't.

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          • LuxM4G

            Oh cmon, your not a real eunuch ;)

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            • TheMightyOz

              Fuck off. My cock got wrecked because of a surgical procedure. Now it has a rubber tube in it. Go fuck yourself asshole.

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  • McBean

    If you want non-desperate guys you will have to suck cock. Desperate guys will take whatever they can get.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Maybe she's a non-desperate gal?

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      • McBean

        I'm confused. She sounds non-desperate but because she doesn't like to lick and suck, she is going to discourage non-desperate guys from being partners with her. That's too bad. I'm non-desperate. I try to be friends with the girls. Most of the girls just need a good brother anyway.

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        • RoseIsabella

          She's not discouraging anything, she's just being honest. She has a right to be honest with others, and she owes it to herself to be honest with herself. She doesn't owe this guy or anyone else anything, especially if the guy expects favors from her than he isn't willing to return. Additionally, if her guy isn't cool with her not giving him what he wants he is free to dump her, and go fund someone else with whom he is more compatible.

          This lacking in the bedroom is no grand tragedy. They're both free to breakup, and find someone else who is more suitable.

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          • McBean

            Yes, of course. I guess she'll have to find a guy that is happy with slam bang unresponsive sex. Sounds rather insensitive to me, and unromantic for sure. But to each their own.

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            • RoseIsabella

              Yes, it's pretty much a to each their own sort of thing.

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            • GeniusGirl

              Who said anything about "unresponsive sex"?? Obviously your a talented person , with an UNresponsive gag reflex, practice makes perfect i guess.

              I asked a question, nowhere in the post does it state that there is anything lackin in my sex life, so dont make assumptions

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    • GeniusGirl

      🤣🤣🤣🤣 Please explain !! What defines a 'desperate guy' ?? Lol

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