She was great, wasn't she? :) I should have talked to her more often before she left. Maybe she's turned to lurking, will see us talking about her and decide to come back? We can but hope...
When I was gifted Gold I was the same as you, commenting early before most of the comments had been left. I'd always come back later if it was particularly interesting, or if I could see there were a lot of new comments so I could try and get the best of both worlds. I sometimes spend too much time here because of that! :S
Haha, I get paranoid about people thinking I'm creepy sometimes. I don't have a clue why that is :P I often find myself asking "is that creepy?" xD I'm glad you think it's okay though :)
It's funny; I always feel as if I get more closed off over time instead of steadily more open. I would probably never post a picture of myself now, definitely not of my un-obscured face. It happens with friends as well, getting more and more closed off the more I know people because their opinions of me matter to me more as I get know people better. It goes in phases here where I close off and don't want to talk as much, to phases where I really enjoy being open and conversational like I do now :)
There are bound to be far creepier than us on IIN :D It *is* IIN, after all lol
Yep, I did love TerryVie, she was great. I can't imagine her lurking, but hopefully she'll come back.:)
I get a bit more closed off with certain people over time too. On the site, generally speaking, it does happen to me. I'm completely open with people I feel comfortable with, and I sometimes feel comfortable with them instantly, and don't become closed off over time. It doesn't happen often for me, though.
Some of the people I talk to most often with I don't feel entirely comfortable with, I just feel "used to" talking to them. It can be a bit awkward for me:/. Ah well, I'm working on it! I only feel comfortable with certain people because I don't think their opinion of me will change, so I feel like I can say anything and they won't mind. With other people, I feel like I can't be entirely myself, because like you, the more I get to know them the more their opinions matter to me, and I don't want them to think badly of me. I go in phases too, though.:P I feel particularly open on the site now, which I think might last a while actually (hopefully!), but I don't think it even comes across much in my comments, because for me it's more of how I feel about writing the comment rather than what I say. Although, I wouldn't normally make this a comment, even though I'd happily send it as a PM where only one person can read it. Yet I'm making it a comment, so that's something, I guess:)!
Haha, it's pretty weird how similar we are:D. So, although I might be willing to show individual users (the ones I'm comfortable with) what I look like, I don't think I'll get to a point where I put one in my profile, for everyone to see. Maybe one day!:)
And yeah, very good point. We have some way to go before we earn the prestigious title of "IIN Creep". Oh, if only!:P
It's an interesting mix for me. I'm almost always willing to be open about my personal beliefs because I genuinely don't care if people dislike them - in fact, there's only one belief I have which I'm not entirely open about because I know it would affect the way some people see me (which might seem odd as it's a belief you, I and others here share but I support extremely radically). I would have felt comfortable talking about it in the past (and I have done), but I don't anymore.
My external personality is something that's more difficult for me to put here; certainly I find it harder than I once did. I find it harder to be entirely honest about the things I like and dislike, for example.
Another concern I have is that I've become more and more worried about people I know in "real life" finding me on IIN. When I was first commenting on IIN one of the things I loved most about it was that I could write anything, especially the stuff I wouldn't want people in "real life" to know. Now I'm getting closer toward the opposite... what if someone finds me on IIN, trawls through my comments and finds out things I'd be uncomfortable with getting out? What if I said something that made people here turn against me? What if I didn't feel safe here anymore? Sometimes those are very real, immediate feeling worries, other times they're not even in the back of my mind. Like you I feel I'm getting better at the moment, but there's no doubt I'll get worse again in the future. So much of my life feels like it goes in cycles - I don't know if that's just the human tendency to see patterns in nothing or whether life really does repeat itself.
I'm very grateful for the fact that there's private messages now, it makes everything so much easier. The ability to easily communicate privately is a blessing, even though there's few people I use it with. The worries I sometimes find myself having about IIN can be summed up as me having "trust issues", which I definitely do. That means that the vast amount of what I can trust to one person I can trust publicly too, but having private messages is really great for when you need them :)
Argh, I'm so curious about what you're extremely radical about! Damn you, dom!:P
I doubt someone will spot you from real life. And even if they do, if they do trawl through all your comments, well there's nothing you can do about it really. Unless you delete every single one of your comments, which I wouldn't recommend.:P To me, it seems pointless worrying about it, because worrying about it is hardly going to stop it from happening. Not that it would anyway. It would be highly unlikely. Sorry, I'm not the best at reassuring people:P.
I know you're not at all the judgmental type, so I'll consider it. Heehee... maybe I'll tell you, sometime. Maybe ;P
Yeah, you're right. Worrying about what you can't control never solved anything. It's silly of me to worry, when I do worry about it :) Deleting my comments would be a huge over-reaction, you're right :P
Grr! You shouldn't tease me like this, you bastard:P! Argh, damn curiosity. Now I'm going to be wondering what this mystery belief is. Hmm. You're not a Nazi or something are you?:P
Is it normal sometimes I want to tell you my name?
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She was great, wasn't she? :) I should have talked to her more often before she left. Maybe she's turned to lurking, will see us talking about her and decide to come back? We can but hope...
When I was gifted Gold I was the same as you, commenting early before most of the comments had been left. I'd always come back later if it was particularly interesting, or if I could see there were a lot of new comments so I could try and get the best of both worlds. I sometimes spend too much time here because of that! :S
Haha, I get paranoid about people thinking I'm creepy sometimes. I don't have a clue why that is :P I often find myself asking "is that creepy?" xD I'm glad you think it's okay though :)
It's funny; I always feel as if I get more closed off over time instead of steadily more open. I would probably never post a picture of myself now, definitely not of my un-obscured face. It happens with friends as well, getting more and more closed off the more I know people because their opinions of me matter to me more as I get know people better. It goes in phases here where I close off and don't want to talk as much, to phases where I really enjoy being open and conversational like I do now :)
There are bound to be far creepier than us on IIN :D It *is* IIN, after all lol
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Yep, I did love TerryVie, she was great. I can't imagine her lurking, but hopefully she'll come back.:)
I get a bit more closed off with certain people over time too. On the site, generally speaking, it does happen to me. I'm completely open with people I feel comfortable with, and I sometimes feel comfortable with them instantly, and don't become closed off over time. It doesn't happen often for me, though.
Some of the people I talk to most often with I don't feel entirely comfortable with, I just feel "used to" talking to them. It can be a bit awkward for me:/. Ah well, I'm working on it! I only feel comfortable with certain people because I don't think their opinion of me will change, so I feel like I can say anything and they won't mind. With other people, I feel like I can't be entirely myself, because like you, the more I get to know them the more their opinions matter to me, and I don't want them to think badly of me. I go in phases too, though.:P I feel particularly open on the site now, which I think might last a while actually (hopefully!), but I don't think it even comes across much in my comments, because for me it's more of how I feel about writing the comment rather than what I say. Although, I wouldn't normally make this a comment, even though I'd happily send it as a PM where only one person can read it. Yet I'm making it a comment, so that's something, I guess:)!
Haha, it's pretty weird how similar we are:D. So, although I might be willing to show individual users (the ones I'm comfortable with) what I look like, I don't think I'll get to a point where I put one in my profile, for everyone to see. Maybe one day!:)
And yeah, very good point. We have some way to go before we earn the prestigious title of "IIN Creep". Oh, if only!:P
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It's an interesting mix for me. I'm almost always willing to be open about my personal beliefs because I genuinely don't care if people dislike them - in fact, there's only one belief I have which I'm not entirely open about because I know it would affect the way some people see me (which might seem odd as it's a belief you, I and others here share but I support extremely radically). I would have felt comfortable talking about it in the past (and I have done), but I don't anymore.
My external personality is something that's more difficult for me to put here; certainly I find it harder than I once did. I find it harder to be entirely honest about the things I like and dislike, for example.
Another concern I have is that I've become more and more worried about people I know in "real life" finding me on IIN. When I was first commenting on IIN one of the things I loved most about it was that I could write anything, especially the stuff I wouldn't want people in "real life" to know. Now I'm getting closer toward the opposite... what if someone finds me on IIN, trawls through my comments and finds out things I'd be uncomfortable with getting out? What if I said something that made people here turn against me? What if I didn't feel safe here anymore? Sometimes those are very real, immediate feeling worries, other times they're not even in the back of my mind. Like you I feel I'm getting better at the moment, but there's no doubt I'll get worse again in the future. So much of my life feels like it goes in cycles - I don't know if that's just the human tendency to see patterns in nothing or whether life really does repeat itself.
I'm very grateful for the fact that there's private messages now, it makes everything so much easier. The ability to easily communicate privately is a blessing, even though there's few people I use it with. The worries I sometimes find myself having about IIN can be summed up as me having "trust issues", which I definitely do. That means that the vast amount of what I can trust to one person I can trust publicly too, but having private messages is really great for when you need them :)
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Argh, I'm so curious about what you're extremely radical about! Damn you, dom!:P
I doubt someone will spot you from real life. And even if they do, if they do trawl through all your comments, well there's nothing you can do about it really. Unless you delete every single one of your comments, which I wouldn't recommend.:P To me, it seems pointless worrying about it, because worrying about it is hardly going to stop it from happening. Not that it would anyway. It would be highly unlikely. Sorry, I'm not the best at reassuring people:P.
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I know you're not at all the judgmental type, so I'll consider it. Heehee... maybe I'll tell you, sometime. Maybe ;P
Yeah, you're right. Worrying about what you can't control never solved anything. It's silly of me to worry, when I do worry about it :) Deleting my comments would be a huge over-reaction, you're right :P
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Grr! You shouldn't tease me like this, you bastard:P! Argh, damn curiosity. Now I'm going to be wondering what this mystery belief is. Hmm. You're not a Nazi or something are you?:P
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Oh God no, at least I don't think so. I'm about to drop you a PM :P