Is it normal resent my husband

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My husband and I have been separated for a couple months and sometimes I resent him for not having to worry about the things I have to when it comes to our 5 children. Like for example Making sure they are fed, getting them around for school, getting them ready for bed, doctors appt. Oh I can go on and on! He is a good provider and helps out every week financialy, but that's it. All I want is for him to be more involved in their lives. Am I wrong for feeling like this. He gets to live by his self while I run around with my head chopped off. Just don't seem fair.

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  • bodiewangler
    13 years ago

    It's normal, but not healthy to carry around such a resentful attitude. You don't want to drown in a sea of negativity over a situation that you can't fix.

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  • genro
    13 years ago

    Don't worry the trash talkers are probably young kids with no responsibility other than school and partying! Yes totally normal to feel this way I am a single mom and his dad is getting better but it's taken him 4 years to be consistant. The majority of the time the responsibilty falls on the moms and the dads get to be the fun parent, and think "why is she complaining it's not that hard" lol... You said you're seperated so is there a chance of reconsiling? If so I would suggest talking about it with him along with a non biased third party like a therapist... The resentment isn't going to help with healing the relationship if that is what you are working for... Either way your feelings are legit and you're definently not alone in your feelings. I am giving you a virtual hug because it's hard enough with one I could not imagine five...

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  • pepsigirl
    13 years ago

    I'm sorry you are going through that! I think your feelings on the situation are completly normal!! And saying you would like more help does not mean you wish you wouldn't have had your children! Sheesh! Some people are so rude! As if to say " should have thought about that before the souls you love and take care of and would do anything for were conceived" you love them and don't regret a thing but wish your husband was there more emotionally I absolutely think that's normal! Kids need a father figure not just money! Good luck with everything! I hope he steps up to the plate!

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  • Myway75
    13 years ago

    Think ahead of what people? We have been together 20 years me being 15 him being 16 we made it past most adult relationships! We are having problems right now and I don't think it's fair that he only pay child support but not put effort forth to see our kids because we are having problems. Having 5 kids has been a blessing!

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  • deedee1111
    13 years ago

    Thats some of what is wrong with people, they dont think ahead now your stuck with 5 kids should have thought of that ahead of time.

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  • BlackShadow123
    13 years ago

    Why would you want 5 kids anyways?
    You knew ahead of time it would be stressful.

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  • Ra1l
    13 years ago

    Should have thought about that before you had a litter of children?
    Those are your kid's, find a new man that cares about you and your children.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    divorce?

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  • asscake
    13 years ago

    It normal try to switch off let him have them from a week or weekend

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