I suppose I misunderstood. It sounded like what you were indicating was that any unintended children were best suited for the chopping block, which is why I extrapolated about the multiple births ("I'm also more angry that people keep surprise pregnancies or put them up for adoption.."). I'm sure that there are many couples that perhaps are not planning for a child, but nonetheless welcome the addition to the family, and it grows up loved and hopefully, not even knowing that they were a 'mistake'. I am also sure that there are many adults, well adjusted and happy, that when their parents found out they were pregnant, had no idea how on earth they would afford said child, and yet managed to, and to even love the child. Not every unintentional child winds up aborted or up for adoption. I'm sure that there are many people who find that they have to grow up in a hurry because they are pregnant. Not the best alternative, but I find it more than a little messed up to imply that all unintended children that are kept by their parents are doomed to a sad and pitiful existence. Additionally, saying, "I'm also more angry that people keep surprise pregnancies or put them up for adoption.." implies that as an adopted child, you think it would have been preferable to be aborted? Yes, many children flounder in orphanages and foster care, but do you think that they all would have preferred nonexistence? Maybe you didn't intend your question to sound that way, but in reading your question only, that is what it seems like you are implying. I wasn't saying that parents in the process of or attempting to adopt a child shouldn't view a child as their own, I think that they definitely should (at least in domestic adoptions, I know that foreign adoptions can unexpectedly fall through), and it would probably be impossible to avoid, but what you seemed to imply was that any adults considering expanding their family should be thinking of children in foster care and the adoption pool as 'theirs', and you seem to think that they have some sort of responsibility, and ought to feel some sort of attachment towards them. They don't, any more than they have any responsibility and attachment towards any other individual they don't know. It's like you're looking to redistribute children. I understand where your opinion comes from, it's not as though it's insane or irrational, given your life experiences, but, and it's really more of a BUT- what you're saying really does make you sound like a twisted fascist.
I'm assuming that you're female. Given that you seem to live with and socialize a great deal with your parents, I suspect that you are a teenager, but I would be interested to find out how old you are. I would also be interested to learn how you feel about the subject when you're nearing 30 and your biological impulses may be overriding your current moral stance.
I still think you're projecting too much. I am female, but I'm in my early twenties.
Regarding "Yes, many children flounder in orphanages and foster care, but do you think that they all would have preferred nonexistence?"
I don't think you understand what it can do to a psyche to feel as though you weren't meant to exist in one of the most the most basic and important ways most people were.
IIN people preferring biological over adopted kids makes me angry?
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I suppose I misunderstood. It sounded like what you were indicating was that any unintended children were best suited for the chopping block, which is why I extrapolated about the multiple births ("I'm also more angry that people keep surprise pregnancies or put them up for adoption.."). I'm sure that there are many couples that perhaps are not planning for a child, but nonetheless welcome the addition to the family, and it grows up loved and hopefully, not even knowing that they were a 'mistake'. I am also sure that there are many adults, well adjusted and happy, that when their parents found out they were pregnant, had no idea how on earth they would afford said child, and yet managed to, and to even love the child. Not every unintentional child winds up aborted or up for adoption. I'm sure that there are many people who find that they have to grow up in a hurry because they are pregnant. Not the best alternative, but I find it more than a little messed up to imply that all unintended children that are kept by their parents are doomed to a sad and pitiful existence. Additionally, saying, "I'm also more angry that people keep surprise pregnancies or put them up for adoption.." implies that as an adopted child, you think it would have been preferable to be aborted? Yes, many children flounder in orphanages and foster care, but do you think that they all would have preferred nonexistence? Maybe you didn't intend your question to sound that way, but in reading your question only, that is what it seems like you are implying. I wasn't saying that parents in the process of or attempting to adopt a child shouldn't view a child as their own, I think that they definitely should (at least in domestic adoptions, I know that foreign adoptions can unexpectedly fall through), and it would probably be impossible to avoid, but what you seemed to imply was that any adults considering expanding their family should be thinking of children in foster care and the adoption pool as 'theirs', and you seem to think that they have some sort of responsibility, and ought to feel some sort of attachment towards them. They don't, any more than they have any responsibility and attachment towards any other individual they don't know. It's like you're looking to redistribute children. I understand where your opinion comes from, it's not as though it's insane or irrational, given your life experiences, but, and it's really more of a BUT- what you're saying really does make you sound like a twisted fascist.
I'm assuming that you're female. Given that you seem to live with and socialize a great deal with your parents, I suspect that you are a teenager, but I would be interested to find out how old you are. I would also be interested to learn how you feel about the subject when you're nearing 30 and your biological impulses may be overriding your current moral stance.
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I still think you're projecting too much. I am female, but I'm in my early twenties.
Regarding "Yes, many children flounder in orphanages and foster care, but do you think that they all would have preferred nonexistence?"
I don't think you understand what it can do to a psyche to feel as though you weren't meant to exist in one of the most the most basic and important ways most people were.