My husband is adopted and wants nothing more than to understand what blood family means. I have my opinions but I will never understand his perspective. We will likely adopt or foster as well as birth our own offspring. It's hard, we don't have to prove anything to anyone to create a child ourself. And childbirth itself it a very interesting experience.
The foster system is sad, but you can't force people to take in children. Do what you can to support and encourage others to do the same. Just don't attack them and belittle them because they want their own. Most people won't willingly take on a child with such risks.
I feel as though I should have worded my post better, I'm sorry.
I'm not ONLY angry that people want to have children in a world where there exist hundreds of thousands that will never know the love of caring parents. I just also wish it had the same level of legitimacy as normal birth.
In the event that a couple plans for a child, tries, and achieves a pregnancy, that's wonderful.
I'm also more angry that people keep surprise pregnancies or put them up for adoption and add to this HUMONGOUS PROBLEM without ever really understanding it.
Okay, I didn't see legitamacy as the issue in your post. And knowing my in laws, they did right by adoption. They didn't want to leave it to chance to have a boy so they went and found one. He is treated the same as any other family member if not better. Family does not always mean blood. Husbands and wives are not blood but no one would deny their status as family. Why can't we choose siblings, children, aunts, uncles, ect. in the same manner? We really should take better care of each other.
I think that's very well put. And I agree.
No one even knows I'm adopted half the time, some people actually comment that I look just like my mom and we giggle and exchange knowing smiles, and thank them.
IIN people preferring biological over adopted kids makes me angry?
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My husband is adopted and wants nothing more than to understand what blood family means. I have my opinions but I will never understand his perspective. We will likely adopt or foster as well as birth our own offspring. It's hard, we don't have to prove anything to anyone to create a child ourself. And childbirth itself it a very interesting experience.
The foster system is sad, but you can't force people to take in children. Do what you can to support and encourage others to do the same. Just don't attack them and belittle them because they want their own. Most people won't willingly take on a child with such risks.
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I feel as though I should have worded my post better, I'm sorry.
I'm not ONLY angry that people want to have children in a world where there exist hundreds of thousands that will never know the love of caring parents. I just also wish it had the same level of legitimacy as normal birth.
In the event that a couple plans for a child, tries, and achieves a pregnancy, that's wonderful.
I'm also more angry that people keep surprise pregnancies or put them up for adoption and add to this HUMONGOUS PROBLEM without ever really understanding it.
Also, risks?
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You should have posted your post with those words.^
Hey you've re-edited your post after I have commented. This is unfair!!
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If I should have put the words in my post, you can't really call me unfair for putting the words in my post. ;A;
I realized my original post clearly didn't have enough information in it.
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The original post was full of anger. Anyway, I'm in a good mood and I won't argue today.
Merry Christmas:)
Okay, I didn't see legitamacy as the issue in your post. And knowing my in laws, they did right by adoption. They didn't want to leave it to chance to have a boy so they went and found one. He is treated the same as any other family member if not better. Family does not always mean blood. Husbands and wives are not blood but no one would deny their status as family. Why can't we choose siblings, children, aunts, uncles, ect. in the same manner? We really should take better care of each other.
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I think that's very well put. And I agree.
No one even knows I'm adopted half the time, some people actually comment that I look just like my mom and we giggle and exchange knowing smiles, and thank them.