I don't find that insulting at all, oddly. Some animals have suffered far more abuse than foster children, and vice versa.
I understand those who feel the need to 'pass on the family line' or what have you, I suppose, but only to an extent. For example, though I myself am adopted, I take after my adoptive father to an UNCANNY degree. I'm very proud to be his daughter, even when we don't see eye to eye, and I know it's because he raised me. I feel that would be the case with anyone. Your kids are your kids because you raise them, you know? I mean, I definitely understand that your kids are also your kids because they are literally spawned from your DNA sometimes as well, but it's almost INVALIDATING to my family how much other people shun adoption as an option when considering children.
Your opinions are actually VERY refreshing to hear compared to some I've heard. ;~;
You make a good piont. I agree with this completely. I also find the fact that some people can not have kids and will try over and over 100 times but refuse to adopt. At some point you should consider adoption. However most people never think of those suffering. With animals people would rather buy a pure breed that are made in puppy mills not mixed breeds or shed animals for the fact they do not have "Papers".
Well I think it more they sometimes will become violent due to mental problems. So the parents consider them a danger. Which it has been proven when babies are not given enough attention growing up they grow up with problems. Which is sometimes the case with foster or adopted children. Which does need a considerable amount of time and effort. Possibly more so compared to a child without these issues.
Every time I have ever been sent to a principal's office, or on the off occasion, a therapist, they always blame everything I do wrong on being adopted.
Oh definitely. It's 100% true.
That's why I want more kids adopted, preferably as babies. When you adopt a child as a baby, those issues are so much less likely to arise.
Unfortunately, a lot of kids are already too grown up for that.
I hadn't really thought about it but yes, there's that sense that you are passing on your dad's values (if not genes) and this - to me - is at least as important as genetics and probably moreso.
Not only that but there's another thing; your family are the type of unselfish people who'd adopt a child. If that's not a good value to pass on, I don't know what is. Certainly a better trait than what your eye colour is or whether you are predisposed to a certain illness.
Thank you very much, that's so nice to hear. ;u;
You have no idea how often people respond with things like, "But you're not REALLY his daughter."
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"You're not his DNA, though, so it doesn't matter what you pass on from him. Personality traits and values don't mean anything."
IIN people preferring biological over adopted kids makes me angry?
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I don't find that insulting at all, oddly. Some animals have suffered far more abuse than foster children, and vice versa.
I understand those who feel the need to 'pass on the family line' or what have you, I suppose, but only to an extent. For example, though I myself am adopted, I take after my adoptive father to an UNCANNY degree. I'm very proud to be his daughter, even when we don't see eye to eye, and I know it's because he raised me. I feel that would be the case with anyone. Your kids are your kids because you raise them, you know? I mean, I definitely understand that your kids are also your kids because they are literally spawned from your DNA sometimes as well, but it's almost INVALIDATING to my family how much other people shun adoption as an option when considering children.
Your opinions are actually VERY refreshing to hear compared to some I've heard. ;~;
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You make a good piont. I agree with this completely. I also find the fact that some people can not have kids and will try over and over 100 times but refuse to adopt. At some point you should consider adoption. However most people never think of those suffering. With animals people would rather buy a pure breed that are made in puppy mills not mixed breeds or shed animals for the fact they do not have "Papers".
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Exactly! A lot of people don't consider it because they don't want 'broken' kids with 'issues.'
It's so dehumanizing to me to hear those things.
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Well I think it more they sometimes will become violent due to mental problems. So the parents consider them a danger. Which it has been proven when babies are not given enough attention growing up they grow up with problems. Which is sometimes the case with foster or adopted children. Which does need a considerable amount of time and effort. Possibly more so compared to a child without these issues.
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Every time I have ever been sent to a principal's office, or on the off occasion, a therapist, they always blame everything I do wrong on being adopted.
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Well they shouldn't. However people will find anything to pick at. Especially when you already have something like that.
Oh definitely. It's 100% true.
That's why I want more kids adopted, preferably as babies. When you adopt a child as a baby, those issues are so much less likely to arise.
Unfortunately, a lot of kids are already too grown up for that.
I hadn't really thought about it but yes, there's that sense that you are passing on your dad's values (if not genes) and this - to me - is at least as important as genetics and probably moreso.
Not only that but there's another thing; your family are the type of unselfish people who'd adopt a child. If that's not a good value to pass on, I don't know what is. Certainly a better trait than what your eye colour is or whether you are predisposed to a certain illness.
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Thank you very much, that's so nice to hear. ;u;
You have no idea how often people respond with things like, "But you're not REALLY his daughter."
or
"You're not his DNA, though, so it doesn't matter what you pass on from him. Personality traits and values don't mean anything."