When I was 23 I feel in love with a girl whom was 13 at the time. She was my neighbor and quite honestly probably one of the best people I have ever spent time with. We had talked about sex and although we did fool around some, we agreed to not have sex until she was legal.
Now before the naysayers/shunners get involved I'll explain about her. Her mother was heavily abused when she was young. From 8-13 her mother had been locked in a doggy cage, fed dogfood, and used as a sex slave. (the girl's aunt was too, but her aunt was sane) This caused the mother to become over-protective of her daughter as well as a diagnosed schizophrenic, bipolar depressed alcoholic. (the girl showed me the paperwork, and I witnessed the mother drinking a gallon of vodka in a 24 hour period of time.)
A majority of the time, the daughter took care of her mom. Cleaning the house, doing laundry and her homework, taking care of her little brother, cooking for them, and even paying some of the bills online. She was also in advanced classes, and a straight A student. Pretty impressive when you really think about it.
The mother became super paranoid over us spending time together. The daughter had some sinus surgery one week and the mother coming home drunk began screaming at her daughter making her cry. She ran over to where I was living to call her step-dad (they were separated but still together) to come control her mom. The mother blamed me for her arrest and forbid the girl and myself from ever talking. (The girl told me "if you ever talk to me again I'll call someone" but I'm pretty sure it was because she was afraid of her mom, since she liked me very much also) A few weeks later as I was getting ready to go home for the summer, the mother told me I should keep in touch. I didn't.
I still wonder about her, we often talked about when she turned 18 and looking each other up, but now that she is 18 I'm almost scared to look her up or make contact. It was a very intense few months together that I still haven't found anyone similar.
Anyway the point I was making with that rant is not all 13 year olds are immature. A lot of the immaturity has to do with how they are raised. So although our snap judgement is "she's to young" (and I agree, 95% of them are) maybe this is one of those special cases.
At least someone can kinda see my side of the story. I agree that not all 13 year olds can be mature. I myself had to grow up fast when my parents divorced when I was 11. I cut grass,cleaned the pool,did general household repairs,did laundry and cleaned the house I did this till I was 17. It was my work before I would do anything with friends. I was the man of the house and I took that seriously. I can honestly say at 19 I wouldnt be the man I am if it wasnt for my parents divorce.
IIN or wrong to talk to a 13 year old?
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When I was 23 I feel in love with a girl whom was 13 at the time. She was my neighbor and quite honestly probably one of the best people I have ever spent time with. We had talked about sex and although we did fool around some, we agreed to not have sex until she was legal.
Now before the naysayers/shunners get involved I'll explain about her. Her mother was heavily abused when she was young. From 8-13 her mother had been locked in a doggy cage, fed dogfood, and used as a sex slave. (the girl's aunt was too, but her aunt was sane) This caused the mother to become over-protective of her daughter as well as a diagnosed schizophrenic, bipolar depressed alcoholic. (the girl showed me the paperwork, and I witnessed the mother drinking a gallon of vodka in a 24 hour period of time.)
A majority of the time, the daughter took care of her mom. Cleaning the house, doing laundry and her homework, taking care of her little brother, cooking for them, and even paying some of the bills online. She was also in advanced classes, and a straight A student. Pretty impressive when you really think about it.
The mother became super paranoid over us spending time together. The daughter had some sinus surgery one week and the mother coming home drunk began screaming at her daughter making her cry. She ran over to where I was living to call her step-dad (they were separated but still together) to come control her mom. The mother blamed me for her arrest and forbid the girl and myself from ever talking. (The girl told me "if you ever talk to me again I'll call someone" but I'm pretty sure it was because she was afraid of her mom, since she liked me very much also) A few weeks later as I was getting ready to go home for the summer, the mother told me I should keep in touch. I didn't.
I still wonder about her, we often talked about when she turned 18 and looking each other up, but now that she is 18 I'm almost scared to look her up or make contact. It was a very intense few months together that I still haven't found anyone similar.
Anyway the point I was making with that rant is not all 13 year olds are immature. A lot of the immaturity has to do with how they are raised. So although our snap judgement is "she's to young" (and I agree, 95% of them are) maybe this is one of those special cases.
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At least someone can kinda see my side of the story. I agree that not all 13 year olds can be mature. I myself had to grow up fast when my parents divorced when I was 11. I cut grass,cleaned the pool,did general household repairs,did laundry and cleaned the house I did this till I was 17. It was my work before I would do anything with friends. I was the man of the house and I took that seriously. I can honestly say at 19 I wouldnt be the man I am if it wasnt for my parents divorce.