Is it normal or am i overreacting?

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It's the last year of high school and I've been feeling lonely and so distant from everyone. I have several close friends but as time is passing, I feel as if everything is different. We either hang out less or just aggravate eachother. The majority of my friends go to parties and drink, etc. i'm straight edge so I don't get invited. It seems as if the only way to make friends or feel accepted is if I go to these parties. I don't have any money to go out most of the time since I'm not allowed to get a job. And whenever I want to go out, there's nobody that's able to go. So after a while, I started distancing away and started to try finding my self inspiration; a drive that comes within so I don't have to rely on anyone else. That resulted in friends being angry that I was pushing them away. I just don't know what to do now, it's senior year, shouldn't this be the one of the funnest summers of my life?

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  • Juvu.Lotus
    12 years ago | pl

    Okay, it seems to me that you're genuinely different to your friends. They want to go party, you probably have other interests and your struggling to understand the value in what they enjoy.

    Ever heard the expression "big fish in a little pond?"

    I think you need to meet new people with similar interests. If it's your final year at school, you're probably just coming to realize who you are as an individual, and it happens.
    When I left school I only kept in touch with one friend-the truest and closest I'd made. People come and go, it's natural. But don't take it personally.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Doesn't seem like the greatest "fit" between you and your friends. Are there other activities you can initiate where you have common ground with these friends? I agree with the comment above about not being too judgmental and rigid. On the other hand, as you get older you become more discerning about who you are & how much you have in common with childhood friends. So as well as finding common ground, why not strike out in you final year to make new friends who may share your interests and values?

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    13 years ago | pl

    You are creating this sad situation for yourself. Instead of moping about it, find ways to to connect to your friends again. If they are upset that you are cutting yourself off from them, then obviously they want to hang out with you.

    You say it's money that holds you back, but really it's your rigid attitude about how other people have fun that holds you back. You can still be straight edge, but hang out with people who are not - just don't get all preachy that your way is better than theirs.

    Enjoy your last year with your childhood friends. You will have plenty of opportunities to make new friends who share common interests with you once you are out in the real world.

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