You should never use a child as an emotional weapon. I know your 10 month old is completely unaware, but it's just a bad, spiteful thing to do. Your Dad may be a complete jerk, but in a way it's an opportunity for you to be a better person rather than descend to that level.
I mean, if ties with your Dad are completely severed and you know you'll never see him again, then you wouldn't be contacting him. But from what you say, the main motivation seems to be spite and payback which to be honest, is an abhorrent thing to put your child in the middle of. Things like this can be remembered for a long time.
I don't think you're a bad person; it's just what it sounds like to me.
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You should never use a child as an emotional weapon. I know your 10 month old is completely unaware, but it's just a bad, spiteful thing to do. Your Dad may be a complete jerk, but in a way it's an opportunity for you to be a better person rather than descend to that level.
I mean, if ties with your Dad are completely severed and you know you'll never see him again, then you wouldn't be contacting him. But from what you say, the main motivation seems to be spite and payback which to be honest, is an abhorrent thing to put your child in the middle of. Things like this can be remembered for a long time.
I don't think you're a bad person; it's just what it sounds like to me.