Is it normal not to know your own sexuality?

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I'm an 18 year old girl and I seriously have no idea if I am completely straight, bisexual, or gay. I am very attracted to other girls and love the idea of having a girlfriend, but at the same time I can only imagine myself with a husband and kids in the future. I find myself sexually attracted to both, but I just don't know if I would consider myself bisexual. For some reason I just cannot accept that that's the case because I've always sort of thought that bisexuals are people who just haven't made up their mind yet. I'm so confused.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago | pl

    Why is it so important to label yourself? Is it really necessary for you to choose?
    Have a few relationships and see how things go. You are so young, just relax and let your feelings sort themselves out without pushing.

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  • JustBeingTruthful
    8 years ago | pl

    This comment isn't to help you with your "problem" but it's just to say fuck you. Bisexual people get so much shit from straight and gay people because they "haven't made up their mind", "just like to experiment" or we're just "greedy". Fuck you for thinking this, I'm bisexual and I just want to point out that none of that is true! Screw you for being extremely bigoted!

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  • Corvix
    8 years ago | pl

    Theres something called romantic orientation as well as sexual orientation. Its quite possible and even common for the two to not match up. From what you describe, it sounds like you could be bisexual but heteroromantic, in that you desire sex and flings with all genders, but only deep, romantic relationships with men. I hope I was able to help!

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  • unionclocks
    8 years ago | pl

    So heres some info about bisexuals:
    -They're not confused it is A-OKAY to be attracted to more than one gender and it is a real thing.
    -A lot lean towards one gender but can sitll be attracted to both (e.g. like 70% attracted to men 30% attracted to women).

    And heres another thing...wanna get married and have kids? Sexual and romantic attraction are two different things. A person may wanna bang both genders (the sexual attraction) but may only want to live with (romantic attraction) say, a woman.
    From the sound of it you may be a bisexual heteroromantic? I'm not quite sure because i don't know how you feel about stuff, but i'd say google the difference between romantic and sexual attraction because that will definitely help you define yourself.
    On another note, it is also A-OKAY to not be attracted romantically to who you are attracted to sexually, and vice versa.

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  • squirrelgirl
    8 years ago | pl

    I understand how you feel. Sometimes I feel more attracted to men, and other times I feel more attracted to other women. Even though I'm in my mid-twenties I still go back and forth between them.

    And even though it'd be easiest (and probably most accurate) to say I'm bisexual, sometimes I wonder if I'm actually a closet lesbian who hides her true feelings by pretending to like guys.

    On the other hand, sometimes I also wonder if I'm actually straight but continue to cling to gay culture out of a need to have a sense of identity.

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  • thefuckup
    8 years ago | pl

    Fuck everyone as long as you can.

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