The reality is that natural men's hormones and "plumbing" make them think sexy thoughts much more than they probably want to admit. Sex isn't ugly or wrong if it is with someone you love and with self respect.
I think that talking to mature men, that you respect, about how they handle those thoughts could help you to accept your own hardwired animal nature. Some men are shocked that they have those thoughts even about their daughters when they blossom.
The important thing is how you conduct yourself and redirect your thinking and energy into work that increases your self respect.
Another thing is to know that you can trust yourself to act right.
Fantasy sex life doesn't have to be acted out.
A real adult sexual relationship will give you an outlet and some relief. You do sound like you are coming from a good moral place.
Is it normal not to have indecent thoughts about a girl you like
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The reality is that natural men's hormones and "plumbing" make them think sexy thoughts much more than they probably want to admit. Sex isn't ugly or wrong if it is with someone you love and with self respect.
I think that talking to mature men, that you respect, about how they handle those thoughts could help you to accept your own hardwired animal nature. Some men are shocked that they have those thoughts even about their daughters when they blossom.
The important thing is how you conduct yourself and redirect your thinking and energy into work that increases your self respect.
Another thing is to know that you can trust yourself to act right.
Fantasy sex life doesn't have to be acted out.
A real adult sexual relationship will give you an outlet and some relief. You do sound like you are coming from a good moral place.