Is it normal not to have develop any sense of love when your 17?

Hi I'm 17 and well I don't think I'm able to love a person in any way not even my own family or my dog. I get sexually aroused but thats usually all and easy to ignore. I once had a cat who I adored but one day we had to putt it to sleep and it didn't even bugged me but my sister though cried like baby and all I thought was shutting her mouth does that make me weird? but even though I can't feel love I do feel hate and some times a little sorrow but not enough to make one cry more like when you break a gameboy and compassion also in limited amounts, like if I see you in pain and I feel like it today I might help you but not if it would be too much of an effort.

Is It Normal?
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  • hey dude. im 17 also. i kinda know what you are going through, and i could be wrong but it could be depresion. It is something that i am struggling with right now. i feel i am sometimes alone in the world. I too have a cat. Trouble was the cats name, but i always called her chub chub because she is fat. but yeah, that cat is awesome and i would hate to lose chub chub lol. Im considering taking anti depressents to help combat my problems in life. I dont think this will help, I was kinda just rambling

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  • Yes. Well, I'm hoping. I realized I had a similar thought process when I was eleven.

    I just don't think I'm seeing things like I should. I want to understand the world around me. I can see it. I can understand that it's mostly sad and mildly horrifying. I understand that people are ugly and that in itself is beautiful. But there are finer nuances here, and I especially can't look at people like I wish I could.

    Emotions are stupid and illogical and if it weren't for the fact that I have them, I would denounce them as simple delusions. I'm smart enough to know my emotional reactions aren't right, but I can't fix them.

    Annoying, no? I just turned seventeen in March, by the way. :)

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  • I'm 18 and I just came out of this sort of thing. For the past few years I was afraid of my own feelings (mainly of being hurt again like I was after my grandmother died) so I would try to suppress them. The only ones I couldn't suppress were anger and hate.

    If I was gonna guess, something happened that hurt you so you tried to cut yourself off from your emotions. From what you've said, it's obvious they're still there. As hard as it is, just let them be. It's painful sometimes, but it feels so much better.

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  • hmm that might be it, I do have felt a little down lately, started 5 years ago when my family and I moved to Sweden against my will. thanks

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