Is it normal not to care about being adopted?

I recently found out that I was adopted at birth. It was pretty shocking at first, but that's it, really.
I learnt that my biological father ran out on my mother as soon as he found out about the pregnancy, got messed up with drugs and did prison time.
My mother put me up for adoption immediately after I was born, and then committed suicide 3 years later.

Other than a bit of spite for them being cowards, I really could not care less about it. In fact, I care more about how tall they were/are than meeting my father. (5'0 and haven't grown an inch in a year ;~; )
I feel like I should be more affected by this than I am, though my real/adoptive parents are overjoyed that I'm taking it so well.

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  • How old were you when you found out?

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  • Whats there not to care about? Family isnt determined by blood.

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  • I never cared about being adopted, I just appreciate that my birth mother was responsible enough to know it wasn't the right time for her to have a kid... I have a better life because she wanted the best for me, even if that meant sending me to a new family

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  • It's better then being all depressed and sad about it. It is good that you're taking it in a positive way.

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  • Why should it matter? Long as your adoptive parents are taking good care or took good care of you. I don't see why it matters to find your birth parents. Your parents obviously gave you up for a reason. Be it they could not afford to care for you, or they thought you would be better adopted to someone with more for you. So you should be happy. No matter where you came from.

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  • My husband was purchased out of a vending machine, at least that's what his sisters always told him. The reality is that his parents didn't want to leave it up to fate for a male child. So they adopted him and gave him a loving family. He has little reason to seek out his birth parents, aside from curiosity. And he knows this action would hurt his father. Although he would like to know what types of health conditions run in his blood. It sounds like you have very loving parents and that is a much better thing to know in life than a few DNA details.

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  • Woah your real parents know how to have a good time

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  • Your adoptive parents wanted you enough to take you in and raise you despite them not having to have any responsibility for you. It takes special people to do that. In some ways, you're very lucky.

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  • Yea its normal. It probably doesn't matter to you because you never knew them to begin with. Your adoptive parents are pretty much your real parents. They raised you for your whole life.

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  • thats nice lucky for you

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