You sound like Mai from Avatar the last airbender. You know, Zuko's love interest in the last season. Anyways, I think your friend is telling you that you have problems as a coping mechanism to deal with the constant rejection. Let's be honest, unrequited love sucks and we get over it by creating a coping mechanism. Like some people eat ice cream after a bad break up to cope with the sadness. His mechanism is rationalizing why you don't like him, and saying that you need to go the doctor helps him cope.
Did i just repeat the same thing?
Anyways, if you want to get rid of him, then i suggest you give him a chance. Don't hide behind your misanthropic wall. You have to let people inside. He actually sounds like a nice guy if he still talks to you after you rejected him. If you don't like him after one date, and provide a good reason for your distaste in him, then he'll leave you alone.
Yeah, you're most likely right, but his way to cope is kinda bad. I really should tell him to have ice cream instead, haha...
I actually told him the reasons why I don't like him. It's because it's hard for me to like someone I barely know, I'm that type of person who falls in love after months or even years, with friends. In some rare cases, contrarily, it's love at first sight. None of these is the case with the guy in question.
Also, I personally find him strongly unattractive, and frankly this alone would be enough for me to be uninterested. I know it sounds really superficial, but that's it, I wouldn't go for someone I wouldn't even want to have sex with, honestly... but I didn't tell him, I couldn't! Should I?
I understand you may think he's nice, but I don't as every FORCED conversation I have with him leaves me in a bad mood...
The whole unattractive thing does sound superficial, but it's pretty hard to have sex with someone you find repulsive. Don't push him towards the ice cream, then he'll get fat and even more unattractive. aha.
As for telling him, well I've been in his shoes sadly. I suggests that you tell him that he's unattractive. In my case, my crush said something worse, but it built character. This guy that hangs with you needs some character. However, I caution you to understand his self esteem before you tell him this news because you never know, he could be suicidal.
Is it normal not to care a lot about most people?
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You sound like Mai from Avatar the last airbender. You know, Zuko's love interest in the last season. Anyways, I think your friend is telling you that you have problems as a coping mechanism to deal with the constant rejection. Let's be honest, unrequited love sucks and we get over it by creating a coping mechanism. Like some people eat ice cream after a bad break up to cope with the sadness. His mechanism is rationalizing why you don't like him, and saying that you need to go the doctor helps him cope.
Did i just repeat the same thing?
Anyways, if you want to get rid of him, then i suggest you give him a chance. Don't hide behind your misanthropic wall. You have to let people inside. He actually sounds like a nice guy if he still talks to you after you rejected him. If you don't like him after one date, and provide a good reason for your distaste in him, then he'll leave you alone.
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Yeah, you're most likely right, but his way to cope is kinda bad. I really should tell him to have ice cream instead, haha...
I actually told him the reasons why I don't like him. It's because it's hard for me to like someone I barely know, I'm that type of person who falls in love after months or even years, with friends. In some rare cases, contrarily, it's love at first sight. None of these is the case with the guy in question.
Also, I personally find him strongly unattractive, and frankly this alone would be enough for me to be uninterested. I know it sounds really superficial, but that's it, I wouldn't go for someone I wouldn't even want to have sex with, honestly... but I didn't tell him, I couldn't! Should I?
I understand you may think he's nice, but I don't as every FORCED conversation I have with him leaves me in a bad mood...
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The whole unattractive thing does sound superficial, but it's pretty hard to have sex with someone you find repulsive. Don't push him towards the ice cream, then he'll get fat and even more unattractive. aha.
As for telling him, well I've been in his shoes sadly. I suggests that you tell him that he's unattractive. In my case, my crush said something worse, but it built character. This guy that hangs with you needs some character. However, I caution you to understand his self esteem before you tell him this news because you never know, he could be suicidal.