i did not do anything wrong either, so how is this now my fault, and why am i now expected to be part of someone's life even if i dont want to or why am i now expected to pay the price of other people's irresponsible actions and behaviour.
Like I posted earlier, how would you feel if you divorce you Husband and meet a new Man and get married. And how would you feel if your new Husband tells you he hates your Daughter and wants nothing to do with her.
According to your methodology your new Husband should be exempt from loving, caring, supporting, or even liking your daughter. After all, it would be YOUR FAULT you had a child while you were in a failed relationship.
How would you feel if your new Husband treats your daughter like crap.
And to be honest, YOU MARRIED THE GUY even after he pulled his stunt, so you are just at fault as he is.
Regardless of who is at fault, you can't take your bitter anger out on your Husbands child, it's not the child's fault she was born under those circumstances. Taking that anger you have towards your Husband and the child's Mother out on her is just cruel, unjustified, and just flat out selfish.
It would be like hating your Grand Daughter because your Daughter got knocked up by a complete scumbag.
You don't have to accept her. I've not allowed my husbands sociopath 11 yr old daughter back in my house since last year when she and her mother reported me for abuse. Funny because the day she went home and told her mother these malicious lies, i had actually taken her out with her half brother that very day to Ikea and spoiled her. For years she bullied my 2 kids from my previous marriage, finger painted her shit all over my walls and lied her ass off about it. She beat my son black n blue because he caught her during a game of chasey with 10 other kids. She accused my neighbour of molesting her.
Let your hubby have his mistake to himself. You don't need that in your life.
Because that is life. How many other people have had to pay for your actions? Truth of the matter is love is difficult. If love were easy; the world would be a better place that's for sure. Not having someone she can love and trust affects her. Your actions towards her affect not only you but your husband, her, your son, and those that just so happen to observe you. She is more than a mistake. She has thought's feelings, fears, likes, dislikes just like your son. It is not easy, but that is what makes it all worth it in the end. When you grow old and die you are not going to say, "I am glad I chose to shut out.... or not forgive... or was mean to..." You are going to be saying, "I wish I had treated.... better, I should have helped.... remember when I let... in and I didn't want to, I am so glad... came into my life."
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i did not do anything wrong either, so how is this now my fault, and why am i now expected to be part of someone's life even if i dont want to or why am i now expected to pay the price of other people's irresponsible actions and behaviour.
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Like I posted earlier, how would you feel if you divorce you Husband and meet a new Man and get married. And how would you feel if your new Husband tells you he hates your Daughter and wants nothing to do with her.
According to your methodology your new Husband should be exempt from loving, caring, supporting, or even liking your daughter. After all, it would be YOUR FAULT you had a child while you were in a failed relationship.
How would you feel if your new Husband treats your daughter like crap.
And to be honest, YOU MARRIED THE GUY even after he pulled his stunt, so you are just at fault as he is.
Regardless of who is at fault, you can't take your bitter anger out on your Husbands child, it's not the child's fault she was born under those circumstances. Taking that anger you have towards your Husband and the child's Mother out on her is just cruel, unjustified, and just flat out selfish.
It would be like hating your Grand Daughter because your Daughter got knocked up by a complete scumbag.
You don't have to accept her. I've not allowed my husbands sociopath 11 yr old daughter back in my house since last year when she and her mother reported me for abuse. Funny because the day she went home and told her mother these malicious lies, i had actually taken her out with her half brother that very day to Ikea and spoiled her. For years she bullied my 2 kids from my previous marriage, finger painted her shit all over my walls and lied her ass off about it. She beat my son black n blue because he caught her during a game of chasey with 10 other kids. She accused my neighbour of molesting her.
Let your hubby have his mistake to himself. You don't need that in your life.
Because that is life. How many other people have had to pay for your actions? Truth of the matter is love is difficult. If love were easy; the world would be a better place that's for sure. Not having someone she can love and trust affects her. Your actions towards her affect not only you but your husband, her, your son, and those that just so happen to observe you. She is more than a mistake. She has thought's feelings, fears, likes, dislikes just like your son. It is not easy, but that is what makes it all worth it in the end. When you grow old and die you are not going to say, "I am glad I chose to shut out.... or not forgive... or was mean to..." You are going to be saying, "I wish I had treated.... better, I should have helped.... remember when I let... in and I didn't want to, I am so glad... came into my life."