Is it normal normal to have such an abusive home?

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I am a legal adult. I am not currently employed. I need to leave, and I need to leave as soon as humanly possible. I live in a very toxic home and I am very desperate. Although it’s this bad, I rather have a roof over my head, and food in my stomach and that is why I have not ran away. They have made it hard for me to leave normally (get a job, make enough money, pack up my things ,and then move away) and sometimes I fear what they might do to me if I were to leave. I am not as concerned lately, because they’ve been busy and I’ve been spending as much time away from them as I possibly can, although I always come back. When I leave I will do my best to make sure they don’t know where I am anymore. I need to make as much money as easily as possible so I can get away from them. I have even considered prostitution. I suppose stripping wouldn’t be as bad, but prostitution is more private than stripping and I do not want them to find out where I work. Do you have any advice? Do you have any ideas? I am very desperate. Is this normal? (If there's anyone else out there that has to go through something like this it would make me feel so much better.)

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  • pandabear1209
    11 years ago | pl

    I grew up in an abusive home, when I was 16 I ran away and got a job and never went back. I did it and you can too, its really not hard to get a job, just don't be picky and take what you can get.

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    • Crudhouse
      11 years ago | pl

      I've seen so much statistics on kids running away and then getting into so much trouble. I think the statistics are that there is a 50% chance that you'll end up being kidnapped, raped or mugged if you're a girl that's running away. Please make sure that you've got a place to stay and do not go to the seedy side of whatever city you're in. Sleeping in the park isn't an option!

      There are many hotlines that you can call so that they can make alternate arrangements for you. Do some research on the net and start calling them to see what sort of options you have. Don't run away or turn to risky and debasing activities like prostitution. There are many many options for you so please be patient for the time being.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago | pl

    Don't prostitute yourself! Can't you stay with a friend?

    I've been emotionally, verbally and occasionally physically abused. It's hard. I don't have a job and I'm terrified of people. I unfortunately have to depend mostly on my family. The only thing I'm good at is art and my ideas. The only thing I can do is to go to college and get away from my family. I have friends, but I'm too scared to tell them the truth...

    You should try to get away from them. Toxicity is never a healthy thing to ave to live with day in and day out. Do you have a therapist or regular doctor that you could talk to? Someone that could help you?

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  • LightningTechnician
    11 years ago | pl

    I didn't quite understand the situation on what's happening in your home...but all I can tell you is that prostitution and stripping are going to lead you to even bigger disaster. That shit is going to hunt you to the rest of your life.

    Just hang in there maybe you'll find a stable job and eventually move out, you are pretty desperate at the moment and you probably can't think straight.

    And whatever this may be, no it's definitely not normal.

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  • treemong66
    11 years ago | pl

    Prostitution is only going to make your situation a whole lot worse. You need to tell someone, there are hotlines or the police for that matter. Don't leave one bad situation for another.

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  • joybird
    11 years ago | pl

    Don't leave one toxic life for another - and prostitution is definitely toxic!!

    Have you considered being a live-in nanny or housekeeper or a house-sitter for those going on holiday?

    Or, joining the forces?

    Google 'away from home jobs'.

    Good luck.

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  • milkymum
    11 years ago | pl

    first of all what is going on in your household please explain more then we can give you better advice

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    you're scared of yr family and need to make lots of easy money to escape? either leave with nothing or stay and plan for the future and get it in motion. what are you doing if they ask, the hell i want! is yr answer

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  • assdfghjkl
    11 years ago | pl

    Some people will do that - trap another person and make it hard for them to get away.

    Do not prostitute yourself.

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  • Bob_Hoskins
    11 years ago | pl

    Sounds like someone needs a manager!

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  • auzzie
    11 years ago | pl

    Most countries have shelters for victims of abuse which can often help you with finding accommodation and employment. Even if you are not religious, some churches will help you anyway

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  • ebonysky
    11 years ago | pl

    Do you have friends or relatives you can stay with? Are they physically abusive or emotionally?

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