Is it normal never to get crushes?

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I never become infatuated with particular individuals like most people seem to. Sometimes I'll take an interest in someone if I think their personality would go well with mine in a relationship, but I just never feel drawn to anyone.

While I do tend to overanalyze things, I'm also a huge sap and romantic. I'm very emotional and tend to make decisions in other areas of my life on gut instinct, but I have no gut instincts in this area.

I'm female, 19, and physically attracted to both men and women if that helps.

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  • TheConsciousElectron
    13 years ago

    I know what you mean. When a decent guy is interested, I sometimes feel forced to hang out with him because that's what girls do right? Hang out with guys? But it's hard for me to be intimate with somebody that I'm not crazy about.

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  • heartbrokenbutterfly
    13 years ago

    you just havent found the right one! dont force it, or it wont be real. you have your whole life. :)

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  • Ines
    13 years ago

    I think the facts that you never had a big crush and that you're a huge romantic are really contradictory. Then this might just be a way to protect yourself: you usually end up hurt when a crush doesn't work out, they also drive you insane, the crush becomes so obsessional, and this is sometimes really annoying not to be able to concentrate on anything else. Plus they often make you super uncomfortable when you're around the person... Or it might just be that you haven't found the right person to have a crush on yet ;)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I seriously thought that I wrote that, except I'm a guy and I'm not attract to men. I was like that too until I met my girlfriend. She's the only one who ever caught my attention, that just makes my life perfect. I think you just haven't met that special someone who will have that effect on you.

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  • Greatwhiteshark
    13 years ago

    id say its very unusual for you to have never had a crush on someone especially during school. But other than that, i dont see any problem in the matter, it may even be a god send, because in my experience love hurts alot!

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  • lkkipper
    13 years ago

    The "ability to love" or not being able to have crushes on ppl is a defense mechanism to keep yourself protected. I know it sounds weird, but its a sub-conscious way to keep people at bay. You want to love and you want someone to love you, but you cant seem to let someone in enough to love you and you cant open yourself up enough to have feelings for someone else. You keep yourself closed off. I know what im talking about bc i do the EXACT same thing. Its lonely but once you can realize that this is the problem, you can start making conscious decisions to change it. It gets easier and easier as time goes on.

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