We're only getting one side of the story here, we're only getting your truth. However, on the flip side of the coin, there's no reason to believe you are misrepresenting what happened just because we're only hearing your side.
From what you've said, your reaction seems to be supportive. It does sound like you think it's a phase, though. And that's completely understandable. Historically, it appears that people have gone through a "phase" and then eventually accepted heterosexuality. Personally, I don't buy it. I think they've just chosen the path of least resistance. There are so many anti-gay idiots in the world who want us to conform to their worldview that it's sometimes easier to conform than to be who we are. Those idiots are not just 13 year old boys. They are politicians and religious leaders.
You and your wife, however, don't fall into this idiot category. I think what you said to your son was in good faith. I think you tried to open his eyes to the fact that this may be a transitional foray. However, he may very much feel that it's not. And he may feel entirely insulted that you refuse to accept his word.
Sometimes we have to think things rather than say them, and it's a really delicate balancing act to decide what should be said and what shouldn't. But given that your son's coming out was no doubt more of a surprise to you than it was to him, I really can't criticise you. You sound like the kind of people who care. Maybe it's just going to take time for the dust to settle.
Is it normal my son came out to me, feeling disapointed?
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We're only getting one side of the story here, we're only getting your truth. However, on the flip side of the coin, there's no reason to believe you are misrepresenting what happened just because we're only hearing your side.
From what you've said, your reaction seems to be supportive. It does sound like you think it's a phase, though. And that's completely understandable. Historically, it appears that people have gone through a "phase" and then eventually accepted heterosexuality. Personally, I don't buy it. I think they've just chosen the path of least resistance. There are so many anti-gay idiots in the world who want us to conform to their worldview that it's sometimes easier to conform than to be who we are. Those idiots are not just 13 year old boys. They are politicians and religious leaders.
You and your wife, however, don't fall into this idiot category. I think what you said to your son was in good faith. I think you tried to open his eyes to the fact that this may be a transitional foray. However, he may very much feel that it's not. And he may feel entirely insulted that you refuse to accept his word.
Sometimes we have to think things rather than say them, and it's a really delicate balancing act to decide what should be said and what shouldn't. But given that your son's coming out was no doubt more of a surprise to you than it was to him, I really can't criticise you. You sound like the kind of people who care. Maybe it's just going to take time for the dust to settle.
I hope it resolves itself. For all your sakes.