Is it normal my so called father is like this...

I can relate coz my father has ruined the idea of love ..a relationship and eveything i have turned out to hate realtionships marriages and eveything related and i dont think that anything is ever gonna change my thought

My father is awesome and he adores his daughters. My husband is amazing and treats me with love and respect. Not all men are like your dad. Don't give up on men based on your very unfortunate and tragic experience with your father.

My dad is a complete asshole too! He literraly scares me. The other day, I thought he was going to hurt me........I really hope the saying "girls always marry guys like their fathers" isn't true. For both our sakes

It's normal. It sounds like you're afraid your kids could suffer the same thing you went through. The best advice I can offer you is: find somebody that loves you unconditionally. If he so much as tries to touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, leave him and don't look back.

He sounds like the kind of scum I wouldn't mind shooting to be honest. Most guys aren't like that.

are you asking 'iin for him to be like this'(no)
or 'iin for me to hate hime'(yes)

Considering what you've gone through, it's normal to have these feelings towards having children. But let me assure you, not all men are like that, many can be more caring than you could ever imagine.

I have a thought and it goes like this. Bad fathers create bad people who then kill themselves or become bad people who then kill themselves or have a higher likelihood of being killed then the good parents who have stable children have a higher chance of survival which then benefits the species. This shit sucks but we are still evolving, even in modern society. Very interesting.

well it depends. in some cultures its normal for fathers to only want sons to carry on their names and will force their wives to have an abortion if their first born is a girl. where do you live?

If you're with someone who genuinely loves you, he shouldn't have a problem with your children being a certain gender, that is if he wants to have kids with you.

It's human nature that any potential parent would favor having their child being one particular gender over the other. Most men out there would want to have a son before a daughter, because they feel that both of them will have more in common and therefore be closer to one another with their masculine interests.

So, there's nothing wrong with a parent preferring to have their potential children being one gender over the other, as long as they love and care for that child.

i think its hard for people who have had a stable family to understand what you are going thru. it is right and just that you hate but as valkeer said it belittles you to do so, thats true but your feelings are not something you can just switch off. should probly aim for a state of observing without feeling. easier said than done but maybe 3 options could be, hate and rage alone till you have had enough of it, wallow if you like, till you are spent, or
same as above but include him in the process (who cares if he doesnt like it) or
go get therapy and get someone with expertise to help you achieve a state of peace and understanding that all this is not your fault

Fathers are just as fallible as every other person. There's nothing in the rule book that says they have to be fair to you.

But don't hate him. It belittles you.

It's normal for fathers to be selfish. After all, they're people too. It's not right for him to treat you or your mom the way he did. Not all men are like this and I'm sure when you find a loving man, you'll want to create life with him. Just make sure he is right for the job. :)