Assuming your mother is providing the care and attention you need and deserve, and as long as the guys aren't bothering you in any way, I don't really see anything wrong with this. You are no longer a child, and your mother is an adult who isn't in a relationship. She should be free to have sex with whomever she chooses in her own home.
At forty-nine, she may be feeling that she needs to live a little before she's completely past it. The half-century birthday is a significant milestone. Also, many women find that their libido peaks late in life, so maybe she's just very horny. Perhaps the relationship she had with your father was not that great in the bedroom, and she has now discovered some amazing things.
Maybe you would rather not think of your mother as a sexual being, but the fact is that she is.
A new guy - or guys - every weekend seems to me to border on desperation, like she's trying to prove something to someone, but would you prefer that she sat around moping about how miserable and lonely her life is, and how she's now on the long slide down to the grave? Do you maybe want her to see you as the only man in her life, and her only reason for living? Or perhaps you'd prefer that she took her men to some seedy hour-rate hotel?
I think you first need to understand what specifically it is about this situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. If it's just the fact that your mother is having sex, you need to get over that. If you think she's demonstrating a lack of self-respect, or behaving in dangerous ways, then you might have reasonable grounds for concern. In any case, once you're clear about why you feel uncomfortable, then you could consider having a calm, rational discussion with your mother about your concerns.
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Assuming your mother is providing the care and attention you need and deserve, and as long as the guys aren't bothering you in any way, I don't really see anything wrong with this. You are no longer a child, and your mother is an adult who isn't in a relationship. She should be free to have sex with whomever she chooses in her own home.
At forty-nine, she may be feeling that she needs to live a little before she's completely past it. The half-century birthday is a significant milestone. Also, many women find that their libido peaks late in life, so maybe she's just very horny. Perhaps the relationship she had with your father was not that great in the bedroom, and she has now discovered some amazing things.
Maybe you would rather not think of your mother as a sexual being, but the fact is that she is.
A new guy - or guys - every weekend seems to me to border on desperation, like she's trying to prove something to someone, but would you prefer that she sat around moping about how miserable and lonely her life is, and how she's now on the long slide down to the grave? Do you maybe want her to see you as the only man in her life, and her only reason for living? Or perhaps you'd prefer that she took her men to some seedy hour-rate hotel?
I think you first need to understand what specifically it is about this situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. If it's just the fact that your mother is having sex, you need to get over that. If you think she's demonstrating a lack of self-respect, or behaving in dangerous ways, then you might have reasonable grounds for concern. In any case, once you're clear about why you feel uncomfortable, then you could consider having a calm, rational discussion with your mother about your concerns.