Is it normal my pride kills me?

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Well I was with this guy for almost 6 month.When we start dating none of us loved the other.We just felt good together.He is not a bad person at all but he dreams more than lives.He has lamost everything but always complains that life is not interesting.I was this proud girl who would get every guys attention and was never left by a guy.I even lost my virginity to this guy which I dont regret.We fought over phone the other day and yesterday he called me and asked to meet as he is going to his native town for a month but he wasnt the same.He said he wants to start a new life.Then after an hour I wrote him "Do you want to meet me just as a duty"he said I just wanted to let you know about my decision then he said yes.I want everything to end nice between us so i decided to make a romantic dinner,I dont know what is going on dont blame me i am in worse condition,I just found out I dont feel anything towards you"...I was shocked but from the beggining we promised that if we spilt we will be good friends so I said its ok lets not make a drama.I am too proud take this.He knew I was not going to be with him as I have dream and I want to pursue it without him.But now after all this I cried all the day.I am more angry than hurt its all about my pride.No guy ever left me and he knew this.3 days ago he said i miss you.Lets go on vacation together but then spilt with me .Please help me I dont understand whats going on.I was neve in such a situation.I was so strong,ambitious.Even today after that I woke up and was making me not to suffer.I am still going on,I am working hard to achieve my goal but in my soul I want him to come back.What do you think.Why he did that ?sorry for my English and please dont be rude I need help.

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  • ValerieTDL
    12 years ago

    *eye roll* Ypou shouldnt let your pride get in the way, who cares if he left you or you left him. You sound like a stuck up cheerleader 0__0
    dont wanna be mean though so, yeah, lose the pride.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    It's normal for you to feel devastated. After taking a break from him you'll be able to understand your feelings more clearly.
    Breaking up sucks, especially when you get dumped. You feel like you need to get that persons affection back, to soothe your pride. But, like I said, it's too soon to know how you REALLY feel about the situation.
    Just take some time away from talking to him and sort your emotions out.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    you are stupid

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  • Elegy
    13 years ago

    Even when sometimes I said our relationship is not normall he would say look and you will see one day we will marry.When we were talking on the phone at the end I would say Good night He would say Say that you love me so much.I am afraid its my attitude that made him get afraid.

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  • Elegy
    13 years ago

    Thank you.Look what I said to him when we started dating.'I have dreams and I am going to pursue them as soon as I get my visa to the USA'he said ok our relationshipis free so we dont have to explain anything to each other.All the problem is that our relationship didnt go wrong or smth like that.He wouldl always say I dont love u and u dont love me but sometimes asked what u feel towards me or do you miss me I always said no.I am not your future.If he would dare to say me he loves me which I felt I wouldnt have said all this things.My ex bf before him is still after me.Once he asked havent u ever wanted to be with him or sleep with him(I was virgin when I met him)I said no he said its great it means I am the good one for u.And he even said what if he takes u away from me then added it doesnt matter u are mine.I say once again.I am not crying all day long.I am just angry that he left me.I would always say its me between us who will say good bye and when he asked what if I say bye to you.I said it cant be i am too proud to let u do that.Yesterday after a day from break up he wrote me a message on facebook "How are you" i wrote "Its ok" and you he wrote "Normal".I really dont understand.Please your advice will be greatly appreciated.I knew that one day God will treat me as I treated some guys

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  • mush13
    13 years ago

    this is much complicated. he told you that he doesnt have any feelings towards you but then he told you he misses you and want to go on a vacation with you.

    if you still love him, dont give up..wait for him. who knows later he will love you back when he realizes how sincere you are.

    prolly he has feeling for you but he doesnt want you to know bc he isnt ready for a commitment and dont want you to get your hopes high and dont want to hurt your feelings. but still want to have a special bonds with you.

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  • Elegy
    13 years ago

    Thank you.All the matter is that only 3 days ago he said he wants us to go on vacation together.He is 20.He has just come from the army and he sais he needs to change his life and start new one.I was the one who could understand him.Its not that I am sad because he left its my pride that prays him to come back so that I can myself say him bye.

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  • bubblicious775
    13 years ago

    I don't think he was good for you.
    You'll be better and do better things without him. You said you guys never really felt it for eachother, so why be with him. You felt good around him, well alcohol makes you feel good, that doesn't mean it's good for you. Don't dwell on it.

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