Is it normal my mother calls me names?

This is a minor thing, but it happens often that when we have an argument or I'm just being arrogant (I admit I can be annoying that way), my mother calls me "b*tch" or tells me to "f*ck off". Note that I'm translating the insults because I'm from a non-english speaking country, but the originals are just equally offensive. Now, I always considered it normal: I just insult her back, we argue a bit and then we reconcile. I don't have a bad relationship with my mother, we argue sometimes but it's all pretty normal. My mother isn't even a vulgar woman: she says some bad words at times but overall she's educated and polite. However, one day I was casually talking with my friends about arguments with parents and it came to me that none of their parents talk to them that way. Should I talk to my mother about this?

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  • my mom has called me a piece of shit for remembering to do one math homework,an ignorant ass and now an ungrateful son of a bitch for unknown reasons.

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  • Yes asshole. Just kidding. It is mean and should never happen.

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  • No it's not normal. My mother started doing that during her break-up with my dad. I decided that just fighting back wasn't healthy and she need professional help. It worked at first but then she went back to her old ways not to long after. So now every time she starts I one up her so she really knows and understands how it could hurt. Then she stops.

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  • I don't find it normal, but I'm also not a member of your family. Everyone's different. I think what's important is whether or not you feel hurt by it. If there's any part of you that feels like it's innapropriate, there's nothing wrong with telling her that you would like it if you guys made an effort to not use profanity toward each other when you fight.

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  • My dad said to me 'you don't deserve to be loved'.

    My mum always insults me and my sister, she's just a mean type.

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  • I don't know whether it's normal. My father is a bit like this but I don't think he's normal. My mother, however, is worse. She never swears or namecalls but instead finds uniquely painful and memorable ways to insult. When I told her I'd moved on from a job that was killing me, she said "As long as you've been alive, you've always been a disappointment to me".

    Which was nice of her.

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  • i would talk to her it sounds mean and she is not setting a good example, tell her shes hurting yr feelings but make sure you dont say it either

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  • Idk.. I think it's harsh. I feel bad cuz sometimes a call my 4 yo a bitch when I'm really aggravated and she's being intolerable. I know it's not right.
    I think u should talk to your mother and tell her that those aren't very nice words and you don't appreciate it when she tells you that. I'm sure she will understand.

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  • This is a tough one, all family have different styles of arguing.

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