At the end of the day, you're both responsible. I honestly don't see why as a married couple you should forge ahead and get an abortion. If you really don't want children why haven't you gotten your tubes tied or why hasn't your husband gotten a vasectomy?
Married women can and do get abortions. People who aren't ready or able to care for children get abortions regardless of family status.
We don't know that we NEVER EVER want kids so permanent birth control is not a good idea and it's not even done for young, childless people anyway. We were being careful using 2 BC methods.
When it comes right down to it, she can't decide "as a married couple." She can only decide as an individual because she's the individual who must either end a pregnancy or carry a baby to term. He can't do it for her. She can take his feelings into consideration, she can seek his input, she can decide together with him -- but she can't share the biological duties of gestation with him.
I see what you're saying, but what are her alternatives, given that she can't just hand her uterus off to him to gestate? Is it ever fair for a man to tell a woman that she must stay pregnant because he feels ready to be a parent? What if she realizes she isn't ready? At what point do his wishes supersede hers -- again, given that she's the one who has to undergo the physical and emotional strain that a full-term pregnancy entails?
That's what it boils down to, after all. If she doesn't want a child and he does, you're pretty much talking about treating another human being as if she doesn't have as much say about her own body as another person. That's never a good thing.
By the way, many married couples choose abortion as a last resort when they're unready for parenthood. I think the media has done a disservice to women by portraying it as only something young, poor, single women do. Fewer than 20 percent of women getting abortions are in their teens at all, and one in three women will have at least one. About 60 percent of the women who get an abortion already have children, so they aren't just confused teens who don't know any better; they're making informed choices.
So is the OP. She just wants her husband to help her make her choice. More power to her for that, but he doesn't get to decide for her.
Is it normal my husband won't discuss the options?
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At the end of the day, you're both responsible. I honestly don't see why as a married couple you should forge ahead and get an abortion. If you really don't want children why haven't you gotten your tubes tied or why hasn't your husband gotten a vasectomy?
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Married women can and do get abortions. People who aren't ready or able to care for children get abortions regardless of family status.
We don't know that we NEVER EVER want kids so permanent birth control is not a good idea and it's not even done for young, childless people anyway. We were being careful using 2 BC methods.
When it comes right down to it, she can't decide "as a married couple." She can only decide as an individual because she's the individual who must either end a pregnancy or carry a baby to term. He can't do it for her. She can take his feelings into consideration, she can seek his input, she can decide together with him -- but she can't share the biological duties of gestation with him.
I see what you're saying, but what are her alternatives, given that she can't just hand her uterus off to him to gestate? Is it ever fair for a man to tell a woman that she must stay pregnant because he feels ready to be a parent? What if she realizes she isn't ready? At what point do his wishes supersede hers -- again, given that she's the one who has to undergo the physical and emotional strain that a full-term pregnancy entails?
That's what it boils down to, after all. If she doesn't want a child and he does, you're pretty much talking about treating another human being as if she doesn't have as much say about her own body as another person. That's never a good thing.
By the way, many married couples choose abortion as a last resort when they're unready for parenthood. I think the media has done a disservice to women by portraying it as only something young, poor, single women do. Fewer than 20 percent of women getting abortions are in their teens at all, and one in three women will have at least one. About 60 percent of the women who get an abortion already have children, so they aren't just confused teens who don't know any better; they're making informed choices.
So is the OP. She just wants her husband to help her make her choice. More power to her for that, but he doesn't get to decide for her.