Because I have had a bad life I always thought when he does this to me it’s not really ok, but compared to before I was married and the life I had it’s not so bad. He always says a man should discipline his wife when she needs it. I always told myself if it makes me a better wife then I guess it’s not so bad. But really I always thought underneath he shouldn’t do this, but how do I stop him. Only on the odd time when he is really mad I feel a bit scared but I know he will not hurt me really bad it’s just humiliating and gives me a sore bum for a little while. But in my previous life I was scared all the time and I never wanted to go back to that so I stayed and then we had the children so I could never leave. But now they are young adults making their own lives and I was happy about that and my life carried on with my husband and I know his expectations so he would not be cross to much. But lately he is so bad tempered and I thought it is not really ok that he spanks me. I thought who makes a rule that he should be in charge. So I asked my question on this site, but nearly half the people say it’s the right thing although most of them say he shouldn’t do it in public. So now I am more confused, who says that men should be in charge of their wives what makes them superior.
The way you phrased your question made it sound like you were okay with the spankings before recently. So I said that he should only do it in private because I respect people’s lifestyle choices. But now that I hear that this isn’t something you want, it is wrong that it is happening to you. I would personally never be with a guy who thought that was okay
It’s hard to explain, it’s like I know it’s not really right what he does, but I don’t have the physical strength to stop him. My husband was the first person in my life to really treat me right. I am what most people would consider damaged goods because of my past. So I always figured I was lucky to meet anyone who didn’t just want me so they could abuse me. His little outbursts and the spankings have always been so rare I just accepted that it is a part of who he is. Most things that have happened to me in my life have been far worse. I do know he does love me, we have been married 22 years and he has always showered me with love and attention. I haven’t exactly had any role models in my life to teach me what is or is not acceptable or normal behaviour so maybe he did need to teach me this and the spankings are just his way. Like I said I am just so confused about it all. Is it right that men should be in charge of their wives? He always says it is but we are all just people so why should one person be in charge of the other just because of what sex they were born? On the other hand because he has always taken charge of things he has made me feel safe all these years and once I got used to that feeling I never wanted to lose it. I think maybe that’s the worst bit. The way things have been more recently I am worried I am loosing that safe feeling, not because I think he would do anything really bad to me but what if I am starting to loose him. The spanking in the street was humiliating but it’s far from the worst thing that ever happened to me but that doesn’t mean I want it to become a regular behaviour. I don’t like being spanked but I can live with it. I don’t like doing the grocery shopping but I do it every week I just accept it as part of life. It’s the same as being spanked occasionally, not the greatest thing but I accept it as part of my life.
Anyway sorry for my rambling and thank you for your comment. x
IIN my husband spanks me when I make him angry
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Because I have had a bad life I always thought when he does this to me it’s not really ok, but compared to before I was married and the life I had it’s not so bad. He always says a man should discipline his wife when she needs it. I always told myself if it makes me a better wife then I guess it’s not so bad. But really I always thought underneath he shouldn’t do this, but how do I stop him. Only on the odd time when he is really mad I feel a bit scared but I know he will not hurt me really bad it’s just humiliating and gives me a sore bum for a little while. But in my previous life I was scared all the time and I never wanted to go back to that so I stayed and then we had the children so I could never leave. But now they are young adults making their own lives and I was happy about that and my life carried on with my husband and I know his expectations so he would not be cross to much. But lately he is so bad tempered and I thought it is not really ok that he spanks me. I thought who makes a rule that he should be in charge. So I asked my question on this site, but nearly half the people say it’s the right thing although most of them say he shouldn’t do it in public. So now I am more confused, who says that men should be in charge of their wives what makes them superior.
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The way you phrased your question made it sound like you were okay with the spankings before recently. So I said that he should only do it in private because I respect people’s lifestyle choices. But now that I hear that this isn’t something you want, it is wrong that it is happening to you. I would personally never be with a guy who thought that was okay
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It’s hard to explain, it’s like I know it’s not really right what he does, but I don’t have the physical strength to stop him. My husband was the first person in my life to really treat me right. I am what most people would consider damaged goods because of my past. So I always figured I was lucky to meet anyone who didn’t just want me so they could abuse me. His little outbursts and the spankings have always been so rare I just accepted that it is a part of who he is. Most things that have happened to me in my life have been far worse. I do know he does love me, we have been married 22 years and he has always showered me with love and attention. I haven’t exactly had any role models in my life to teach me what is or is not acceptable or normal behaviour so maybe he did need to teach me this and the spankings are just his way. Like I said I am just so confused about it all. Is it right that men should be in charge of their wives? He always says it is but we are all just people so why should one person be in charge of the other just because of what sex they were born? On the other hand because he has always taken charge of things he has made me feel safe all these years and once I got used to that feeling I never wanted to lose it. I think maybe that’s the worst bit. The way things have been more recently I am worried I am loosing that safe feeling, not because I think he would do anything really bad to me but what if I am starting to loose him. The spanking in the street was humiliating but it’s far from the worst thing that ever happened to me but that doesn’t mean I want it to become a regular behaviour. I don’t like being spanked but I can live with it. I don’t like doing the grocery shopping but I do it every week I just accept it as part of life. It’s the same as being spanked occasionally, not the greatest thing but I accept it as part of my life.
Anyway sorry for my rambling and thank you for your comment. x