I’m not a troll, I’m asking this because I feel it’s not really right. He has treated me this way for years but it’s always been something that might happen maybe 1 or 2 times in a year. It’s never really hurt me except when a couple of times he has been really mad and actually ripped my knickers off my body and spanked me quite hard. But it’s always a humiliating experience for me, but I always just put up with it. The first time he ever did it I had accidentally got one of his white shirts in the washing with some coloured stuff. Something ran and ruined his shirt he got mad and told me to take off my knickers, he was shouting I asked why and he shouted some more. I was scared so I did what he said. Then he grabbed me and pulled me across his lap and spanked me quite hard. It didn’t hurt so much, I had had worse from my father growing up. But I thought as an adult this shouldn’t happen. I wanted to leave him, but we had only recently been married, and I had nowhere to go. He told me after he didn’t like to do that but I should take more care of things. That was 22 years ago and still he treats me this way, but never in front of anyone. He always says it’s a mans job to keep a wife in order, but it’s not for public display. When the children were home he would say get upstairs we need to talk, and I would know what was going to happen. If we were on our own he would just do it in any room. But lately he’s been more bad tempered and done it more often. It’s still not really painful but then the other day for the first time ever he did it in public. It was a nice day and I wanted us to go out for a walk, while we were out he dropped his phone and cracked the screen. He said it was my fault for wanting to go for a walk, he shouted and told me to take my knickers off. I told him I can’t do that here and it’s not my fault you dropped your phone. He shouts and says do I want him to take them off. I could see he was getting mad so I just did it. I was wearing a fairly short skirt and he just bent me over so it rode up, pulled it up a bit more and starts spanking me. Then he grabbed my knickers off me and threw them in a nearby bin and walked off leaving me sobbing. When he’s not doing this to me he’s lovely but I’m so confused I don’t know what to do. About a third of voters on here say it’s ok for him to do this in private, so maybe it is the right thing. I thought maybe everyone would say he shouldn’t do it and I would know it’s wrong. But now I’m more confused and I don’t know what I should do.
It's completely wrong! My ex was yelling at me, and I tried to walk away from him so he went after me, grabbed me and dragged me down the street. The first thing I did after that experience was to call the police! They arrested him, and I left him while he was in jail.
I honestly think you should have left him the very first time he assaulted you. You probably should have called the police too. I personally think the reason you have put up with that bullshit for so long is because your father abused you when you were young.
My dad was, and still is, kinda like my best friend. My father has never abused me, thinks that women and men are pretty equal, is ex-Special Forces and has two degrees so basically I can't even begin to imagine thinking some random dude like your piece-of-shit husband would ever have the right to raise a hand against me. My father has never been violent towards my mother, in fact he taught me that guys who hit women aren't real men, they are just bitches! I have done more than my fair share of dating, and I've never had an abusive partner until this last ex. I think you are a product of your early environment in this case, and to tell you the truth it makes me very sad.
Only you know if you should leave him, but I couldn't put up with his behavior even one time. As far as I'm concerned guys like that are human piles of shit.
Are you still with his shitty ass, because you're afraid of being alone? I think you're doing yourself a disservice by staying with this guy.
IIN my husband spanks me when I make him angry
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I’m not a troll, I’m asking this because I feel it’s not really right. He has treated me this way for years but it’s always been something that might happen maybe 1 or 2 times in a year. It’s never really hurt me except when a couple of times he has been really mad and actually ripped my knickers off my body and spanked me quite hard. But it’s always a humiliating experience for me, but I always just put up with it. The first time he ever did it I had accidentally got one of his white shirts in the washing with some coloured stuff. Something ran and ruined his shirt he got mad and told me to take off my knickers, he was shouting I asked why and he shouted some more. I was scared so I did what he said. Then he grabbed me and pulled me across his lap and spanked me quite hard. It didn’t hurt so much, I had had worse from my father growing up. But I thought as an adult this shouldn’t happen. I wanted to leave him, but we had only recently been married, and I had nowhere to go. He told me after he didn’t like to do that but I should take more care of things. That was 22 years ago and still he treats me this way, but never in front of anyone. He always says it’s a mans job to keep a wife in order, but it’s not for public display. When the children were home he would say get upstairs we need to talk, and I would know what was going to happen. If we were on our own he would just do it in any room. But lately he’s been more bad tempered and done it more often. It’s still not really painful but then the other day for the first time ever he did it in public. It was a nice day and I wanted us to go out for a walk, while we were out he dropped his phone and cracked the screen. He said it was my fault for wanting to go for a walk, he shouted and told me to take my knickers off. I told him I can’t do that here and it’s not my fault you dropped your phone. He shouts and says do I want him to take them off. I could see he was getting mad so I just did it. I was wearing a fairly short skirt and he just bent me over so it rode up, pulled it up a bit more and starts spanking me. Then he grabbed my knickers off me and threw them in a nearby bin and walked off leaving me sobbing. When he’s not doing this to me he’s lovely but I’m so confused I don’t know what to do. About a third of voters on here say it’s ok for him to do this in private, so maybe it is the right thing. I thought maybe everyone would say he shouldn’t do it and I would know it’s wrong. But now I’m more confused and I don’t know what I should do.
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It's completely wrong! My ex was yelling at me, and I tried to walk away from him so he went after me, grabbed me and dragged me down the street. The first thing I did after that experience was to call the police! They arrested him, and I left him while he was in jail.
I honestly think you should have left him the very first time he assaulted you. You probably should have called the police too. I personally think the reason you have put up with that bullshit for so long is because your father abused you when you were young.
My dad was, and still is, kinda like my best friend. My father has never abused me, thinks that women and men are pretty equal, is ex-Special Forces and has two degrees so basically I can't even begin to imagine thinking some random dude like your piece-of-shit husband would ever have the right to raise a hand against me. My father has never been violent towards my mother, in fact he taught me that guys who hit women aren't real men, they are just bitches! I have done more than my fair share of dating, and I've never had an abusive partner until this last ex. I think you are a product of your early environment in this case, and to tell you the truth it makes me very sad.
Only you know if you should leave him, but I couldn't put up with his behavior even one time. As far as I'm concerned guys like that are human piles of shit.
Are you still with his shitty ass, because you're afraid of being alone? I think you're doing yourself a disservice by staying with this guy.