But don't you think if he has the intent to cheat it is just as bad as cheating? I mean does he only come back to me because he can't make it work with them?
If he's not cheating because he can't find someone else who is willing to have sex with him, it's exactly as bad as cheating. The fact that he's trying to cheat and is just so lame that he can't accomplish it doesn't get him any fucking favors.
That being said, are you saying he's been actively trying to cheat or that he's just infatuated with these girls? Because this is kind of vague and we can't form any other opinion than 'your husband is a dick'.
Even if he's not literally trying though, I wouldn't take leaving him off the table based on how little regard he has for you.
Honestly, regardless of whether or not he's cheating what matters is how he treats you. He makes you feel like a sister he hates... That is obviously an unhealthy relationship. Please leave him, if you don't it could have serious repercussions on your psyche. I don't have to know you to know that you can find someone who treats you like you deserve to be treated.
An intention to cheat, which is what you believe but have no proof of, is not the same thing as actually cheating. Most people have attractions outside their primary relationship: if they don't act on them how can you call it cheating?
I'd be more concerned about how he treats you when these alleged attractions occur: maybe if you focussed on the facts of that rather than theories about what's going on in his head this situation could be improved with counselling, but I don't see the point of continuing to accuse him of something when you have no proof.
I have only offered facts. Most people agree that intent is the same thing as cheating.
if someone is tired of their partner, and they try to find a new love, but then they are constantly rejected, and can't find a person who will even smile at them, is that cheating?
They didn't get the opportunity to cheat. But they tried.
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But don't you think if he has the intent to cheat it is just as bad as cheating? I mean does he only come back to me because he can't make it work with them?
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If he's not cheating because he can't find someone else who is willing to have sex with him, it's exactly as bad as cheating. The fact that he's trying to cheat and is just so lame that he can't accomplish it doesn't get him any fucking favors.
That being said, are you saying he's been actively trying to cheat or that he's just infatuated with these girls? Because this is kind of vague and we can't form any other opinion than 'your husband is a dick'.
Even if he's not literally trying though, I wouldn't take leaving him off the table based on how little regard he has for you.
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I think he would cheat if one of the girls gave him the go. His infatuation is over the top.
Honestly, regardless of whether or not he's cheating what matters is how he treats you. He makes you feel like a sister he hates... That is obviously an unhealthy relationship. Please leave him, if you don't it could have serious repercussions on your psyche. I don't have to know you to know that you can find someone who treats you like you deserve to be treated.
An intention to cheat, which is what you believe but have no proof of, is not the same thing as actually cheating. Most people have attractions outside their primary relationship: if they don't act on them how can you call it cheating?
I'd be more concerned about how he treats you when these alleged attractions occur: maybe if you focussed on the facts of that rather than theories about what's going on in his head this situation could be improved with counselling, but I don't see the point of continuing to accuse him of something when you have no proof.
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I have only offered facts. Most people agree that intent is the same thing as cheating.
if someone is tired of their partner, and they try to find a new love, but then they are constantly rejected, and can't find a person who will even smile at them, is that cheating?
They didn't get the opportunity to cheat. But they tried.