She's right - she doesn't have to explain herself to you.
But I'm sure you realize that's what people say when they either don't know why they've done what they've done, or they know they've behaved like an asshat, but they don't want to admit it.
She doesn't have to justify her actions to you; she feels what she feels, and that's all you can really expect someone to tell you. She doesn't even need to understand why she feels the way she does, although I think people who blunder through life just "feeling" and never even trying to understand their own motivations are pretty stupid.
Shutting down the conversation the way she did is emotionally immature. You and she had something going on for several years and she knew you loved her, so it's also very disrespectful.
Sorry, guy, but I think you have to face the fact that she doesn't want to be with you. If she did, her response to your unpleasant news would have been along the lines of, "How is this going to affect you? How will it affect us? What can we do about this?" not stomping off and slamming the door behind her.
Would you have responded as she did if the positions had been reversed? Given what you say, it seems unlikely. Therefore, you also have to face the fact that your love for her was not reciprocated.
You're not at fault here; she is. The best you can do is chalk it up to experience, and move on.
Oh, and if she should happen to return, think very carefully before jumping back in the pool. From what you say, it sounds like she has issues that she's either unable to articulate, or unwilling to discuss with you. That's not good.
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She's right - she doesn't have to explain herself to you.
But I'm sure you realize that's what people say when they either don't know why they've done what they've done, or they know they've behaved like an asshat, but they don't want to admit it.
She doesn't have to justify her actions to you; she feels what she feels, and that's all you can really expect someone to tell you. She doesn't even need to understand why she feels the way she does, although I think people who blunder through life just "feeling" and never even trying to understand their own motivations are pretty stupid.
Shutting down the conversation the way she did is emotionally immature. You and she had something going on for several years and she knew you loved her, so it's also very disrespectful.
Sorry, guy, but I think you have to face the fact that she doesn't want to be with you. If she did, her response to your unpleasant news would have been along the lines of, "How is this going to affect you? How will it affect us? What can we do about this?" not stomping off and slamming the door behind her.
Would you have responded as she did if the positions had been reversed? Given what you say, it seems unlikely. Therefore, you also have to face the fact that your love for her was not reciprocated.
You're not at fault here; she is. The best you can do is chalk it up to experience, and move on.
Oh, and if she should happen to return, think very carefully before jumping back in the pool. From what you say, it sounds like she has issues that she's either unable to articulate, or unwilling to discuss with you. That's not good.