First, have you seen chat-logs or some other proof that she said those things? Unfortunately, it's not unknown for people to create a little drama by exaggerating or even lying about such things.
If you know for a fact your girlfriend said these hurtful things, tell her how that makes you feel, and explain why as you did in your question. If she tries to suggest you're over-reacting or your feelings aren't justified, then that's demonstrating another sort of disrespect. You have the feelings, and she should understand and respect that.
It's okay for her to have her opinions about your appearance and intelligence and how they compare to those of other guys, but she should not be denigrating you when talking with others. If someone says you're not that bright, she should say (and believe) that your good heart and good intentions matter more to her, not agree with them or run you down even more. If someone says you're ugly, she should say (and truly mean) that your appearance doesn't matter to her because of your qualities as a person.
Be aware that if someone agrees with negative things said about their SO, it could be because they're working themselves towards a break-up. Loss of respect is usually a warning sign that a relationship is failing.
Is it normal my gf tells her friends I’m ugly and dumb?
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First, have you seen chat-logs or some other proof that she said those things? Unfortunately, it's not unknown for people to create a little drama by exaggerating or even lying about such things.
If you know for a fact your girlfriend said these hurtful things, tell her how that makes you feel, and explain why as you did in your question. If she tries to suggest you're over-reacting or your feelings aren't justified, then that's demonstrating another sort of disrespect. You have the feelings, and she should understand and respect that.
It's okay for her to have her opinions about your appearance and intelligence and how they compare to those of other guys, but she should not be denigrating you when talking with others. If someone says you're not that bright, she should say (and believe) that your good heart and good intentions matter more to her, not agree with them or run you down even more. If someone says you're ugly, she should say (and truly mean) that your appearance doesn't matter to her because of your qualities as a person.
Be aware that if someone agrees with negative things said about their SO, it could be because they're working themselves towards a break-up. Loss of respect is usually a warning sign that a relationship is failing.