Your fiancee is probably depressed. It might very well be that he's dissatisfied with your relationship, but it might be something else. The lack of enthusiasm, the change in his behaviour, and the fact he doesn't want to do things he previously enjoyed doing are all classic signs of major depression. This'll be a sensitive topic to broach with him for sure. My father has become like this in middle-age. All he does when he's not working is watch TV. He puts his whole life on "ignore", and doesn't want to talk either. He's also irritable and changes the subject like your fiancee does when he's confronted.
First you have to accept that your husband is probably depressed, and that it's not your fault. Then you have to figure out a way to try to get through to him if he means that much to you. Don't start by telling him you're upset that he never does anything with you. Instead, ask him what he wants to do, and tell him you want to do what makes him happy, and that you want to be a happy couple again. Tell him you're concerned about him, and that you take his change in behaviour very seriously.
Above all, keep telling him you love him. If he never responds to any of this, you have to realize it might be about you, break the engagement, and move on.
Is it normal my fiance doesn't like to do anything at all?
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Your fiancee is probably depressed. It might very well be that he's dissatisfied with your relationship, but it might be something else. The lack of enthusiasm, the change in his behaviour, and the fact he doesn't want to do things he previously enjoyed doing are all classic signs of major depression. This'll be a sensitive topic to broach with him for sure. My father has become like this in middle-age. All he does when he's not working is watch TV. He puts his whole life on "ignore", and doesn't want to talk either. He's also irritable and changes the subject like your fiancee does when he's confronted.
First you have to accept that your husband is probably depressed, and that it's not your fault. Then you have to figure out a way to try to get through to him if he means that much to you. Don't start by telling him you're upset that he never does anything with you. Instead, ask him what he wants to do, and tell him you want to do what makes him happy, and that you want to be a happy couple again. Tell him you're concerned about him, and that you take his change in behaviour very seriously.
Above all, keep telling him you love him. If he never responds to any of this, you have to realize it might be about you, break the engagement, and move on.
I wish you luck.