Honestly, you sound like you're the one who needs to step back. Your daughter is in a tumultuous time in any teens life, and sounds like she wants and desperately needs space to figure herself out. You threatening to disown her for not being an obedient, docile laborer to you is doing nothing but creating a schism between you two that will never be repaired if you don't start to treat her with respect.
I see this problem in my workplace constantly. Our GM is just like you. Demmanding, yelling, constantly demmanding perfection and threatening termination and lost hours as soon as an employee has an issue. And it's gotten to the point where I've lost progress I've made in training the people I'm in charge of, because some people don't respond well to that sort of communication (In fact I'd posit that most people don't) and are now shrinking and afraid of losing their job and underperforming as a result.
You're not there to command her. You certainly can't force her into a career she will be miserable in because of your own expectations of her. You're her MOTHER. You're supposed to love and help your children to find their own place in the world, not shove them into a role that you see fit for them. That is not your place.
I think if you come at her from a place of respecting her as your daughter and a fellow human being, you would actually see results. What you're doing now is only going to push her away, ruin your relationship with her and possibly leave her with lasting psychological damage.
You don't seem to care about the advice anyone here is giving to you, but I pray for her sake you reconsider your stance. If you truly do care about her, you need to make her aware of that, because right now you're dong exactly the opposite.
IIN my daughter is being terribly disrespectful and whiny?
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Honestly, you sound like you're the one who needs to step back. Your daughter is in a tumultuous time in any teens life, and sounds like she wants and desperately needs space to figure herself out. You threatening to disown her for not being an obedient, docile laborer to you is doing nothing but creating a schism between you two that will never be repaired if you don't start to treat her with respect.
I see this problem in my workplace constantly. Our GM is just like you. Demmanding, yelling, constantly demmanding perfection and threatening termination and lost hours as soon as an employee has an issue. And it's gotten to the point where I've lost progress I've made in training the people I'm in charge of, because some people don't respond well to that sort of communication (In fact I'd posit that most people don't) and are now shrinking and afraid of losing their job and underperforming as a result.
You're not there to command her. You certainly can't force her into a career she will be miserable in because of your own expectations of her. You're her MOTHER. You're supposed to love and help your children to find their own place in the world, not shove them into a role that you see fit for them. That is not your place.
I think if you come at her from a place of respecting her as your daughter and a fellow human being, you would actually see results. What you're doing now is only going to push her away, ruin your relationship with her and possibly leave her with lasting psychological damage.
You don't seem to care about the advice anyone here is giving to you, but I pray for her sake you reconsider your stance. If you truly do care about her, you need to make her aware of that, because right now you're dong exactly the opposite.