Don't talk to him about it. I usually say the opposite but in this case it's probably best to just forget it ever happened.
Men (especially young men) are not that hard to get hard. A bumpy road can do that with or without someone on the lap. Our brains have complex opinions about other people but our penises are just like: "Hey, stuff is moving - Attention!".
Don't think about the toilet stop too much - The important thing is, he was in a difficult situation and he put a stop to it.
It must have been super embarrasing for both of you and that's probably the only reason he doesen't talk to you.
He's twenty, if it took him a long time, he wasn't doing what you were thinking, he was waiting. (and if he gave up on waiting, then he probably thought of someone else to solve his problem -- evidenced by his avoidance)
Either way, you have nothing to feel embarrassed about; it is normal for him to feel awkward, but its not his fault either.
He is probably avoiding you because he feels embarassed and awkward. If you felt him, he felt you and knows that you are both aware of this uncomfortable situation. His avoidance means feelings have not really changed, just a little awkward.
If he wasnt a little awkward for a while, that would be weird. give him some time to forget about it. avoid that situation again. You may be able to squish between two siblings, or span knees of two different people to not be on anyone's crotch. if you have a younger sibling to be on your lap instead, Or, with 3 people in 2 seats, or 4 people and 3 seats, you can stack by gender.
btw, having more people than seatbelts in a car you can probably get a ticket. (no judgement, been there myself, and in a truckbed with an airmatress )
just ignore the people trying to pressure you into making it worse. just hang out with him like normal, go get pizza and dont talk about that day. let things be the way they were, so they can go back to that.
Lastly, don't trust these guys (the internet is full of jerks) for advice. Find someone you can trust. If you are a part of a religious group, find a youth-oriented leader who you like. Or if you have some other person who you can trust (to keep your secret) of whose advise you know before it is given to be good, some teacher or club leader that you are close to.
Yes I guess so, I can tell he's just as embarassed as i am but what creeps me out the most is that HE suggested it. I mean he's a man so he should've known better?? :S And now he's acting like he's angry at me, wtf? I think I should be the one who is angry
what i guess happened:
[bro] (hmm... #seats < #people) "just sit on my lap"
[sis] (makes sense to me) "thanks" (problem solved... wtf?)
<<some time passes>>
[bro] (dang it, why penis, why now? she doesn't know about penises, she'll totally believe that's the usual size) "i gotta piss"
key{
"dialog"
(inner thought)
}
btw, we can get boners in our sleep. biology, making your brother think that you think he's weird. if he's angry its at biology, or himself. you just got to be the unlucky recipient
I don't think there's reason for anyone to be angry here.
He couldn't really have known. Boners are sometimes unpredictable, but he sure won't suggest it again. The only way to make this less weird is to move on.
IIN my brother got hard when I sat on his lap?
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Don't talk to him about it. I usually say the opposite but in this case it's probably best to just forget it ever happened.
Men (especially young men) are not that hard to get hard. A bumpy road can do that with or without someone on the lap. Our brains have complex opinions about other people but our penises are just like: "Hey, stuff is moving - Attention!".
Don't think about the toilet stop too much - The important thing is, he was in a difficult situation and he put a stop to it.
It must have been super embarrasing for both of you and that's probably the only reason he doesen't talk to you.
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He's twenty, if it took him a long time, he wasn't doing what you were thinking, he was waiting. (and if he gave up on waiting, then he probably thought of someone else to solve his problem -- evidenced by his avoidance)
Either way, you have nothing to feel embarrassed about; it is normal for him to feel awkward, but its not his fault either.
He is probably avoiding you because he feels embarassed and awkward. If you felt him, he felt you and knows that you are both aware of this uncomfortable situation. His avoidance means feelings have not really changed, just a little awkward.
If he wasnt a little awkward for a while, that would be weird. give him some time to forget about it. avoid that situation again. You may be able to squish between two siblings, or span knees of two different people to not be on anyone's crotch. if you have a younger sibling to be on your lap instead, Or, with 3 people in 2 seats, or 4 people and 3 seats, you can stack by gender.
btw, having more people than seatbelts in a car you can probably get a ticket. (no judgement, been there myself, and in a truckbed with an airmatress )
just ignore the people trying to pressure you into making it worse. just hang out with him like normal, go get pizza and dont talk about that day. let things be the way they were, so they can go back to that.
Lastly, don't trust these guys (the internet is full of jerks) for advice. Find someone you can trust. If you are a part of a religious group, find a youth-oriented leader who you like. Or if you have some other person who you can trust (to keep your secret) of whose advise you know before it is given to be good, some teacher or club leader that you are close to.
Yes I guess so, I can tell he's just as embarassed as i am but what creeps me out the most is that HE suggested it. I mean he's a man so he should've known better?? :S And now he's acting like he's angry at me, wtf? I think I should be the one who is angry
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what i guess happened:
[bro] (hmm... #seats < #people) "just sit on my lap"
[sis] (makes sense to me) "thanks" (problem solved... wtf?)
<<some time passes>>
[bro] (dang it, why penis, why now? she doesn't know about penises, she'll totally believe that's the usual size) "i gotta piss"
key{
"dialog"
(inner thought)
}
btw, we can get boners in our sleep. biology, making your brother think that you think he's weird. if he's angry its at biology, or himself. you just got to be the unlucky recipient
I don't think there's reason for anyone to be angry here.
He couldn't really have known. Boners are sometimes unpredictable, but he sure won't suggest it again. The only way to make this less weird is to move on.