Some sociologists believe that men and women treat relationships differently. A prime example, women *tend* to seek approval from friends and family for the man she's seeing. Men are *more likely* to go their own way, regardless of their friends' or family's opinions.
It's understandable that you want to tell the whole world that you're in love, but I personally wouldn't do that. I'm not saying that because I'm a man, I'm saying that because relationships are meant to say something special for the people in it. As a gay man, so many people love to criticize my relationships whenever I walk down the street, for something as simple as holding hands with another man... as if I formed this bond with someone I love and trust to piss off the public. (Seriously, straight couples don't know how easy they have it, when they do something as simple as holding hands or kissing in public.)
My point is, unless there is something happening that needs serious immediate attention (abuse, self-harm, addiction), then it's really no one's business what you do in your relationships. Trust me, it will really benefit you in the long run to keep other people's opinions out of it. Promoting your relationship to others doesn't really do anything positive. It might please or upset your parents, it might make others jealous or insecure because you have something they don't have (or for many LGBTQ youth, afraid to have), but all of these are superficial reasons. Some people believe publicity is romantic, which I can understand. But most of the time it's just to say, "Look what I have? Aren't I awesome?" If you guys ever do something with each other in public, let the moment be between you two, don't ever play to an audience, because that's not what love is about... unless you want your name in everyone's whore-mouth. Trust me. It's not worth the gossip.
IIN my boyfriend won't tell his friends that he told me he loves me?
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I'm a human sexuality educator.
Some sociologists believe that men and women treat relationships differently. A prime example, women *tend* to seek approval from friends and family for the man she's seeing. Men are *more likely* to go their own way, regardless of their friends' or family's opinions.
It's understandable that you want to tell the whole world that you're in love, but I personally wouldn't do that. I'm not saying that because I'm a man, I'm saying that because relationships are meant to say something special for the people in it. As a gay man, so many people love to criticize my relationships whenever I walk down the street, for something as simple as holding hands with another man... as if I formed this bond with someone I love and trust to piss off the public. (Seriously, straight couples don't know how easy they have it, when they do something as simple as holding hands or kissing in public.)
My point is, unless there is something happening that needs serious immediate attention (abuse, self-harm, addiction), then it's really no one's business what you do in your relationships. Trust me, it will really benefit you in the long run to keep other people's opinions out of it. Promoting your relationship to others doesn't really do anything positive. It might please or upset your parents, it might make others jealous or insecure because you have something they don't have (or for many LGBTQ youth, afraid to have), but all of these are superficial reasons. Some people believe publicity is romantic, which I can understand. But most of the time it's just to say, "Look what I have? Aren't I awesome?" If you guys ever do something with each other in public, let the moment be between you two, don't ever play to an audience, because that's not what love is about... unless you want your name in everyone's whore-mouth. Trust me. It's not worth the gossip.