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So my boyfriend and i have been togheter for 2 years im 19 and his 20 he is a great boyfriend and my family loves him but he dropped the "i want another girlfriend" on me yesterday and i told him i need to think about it. I homestly dont want this.
It's a natural response when you figure out your girlfriend is fucking someone behind your back. Relationships are based on trust. If you agree on something that's fine, but it's not okay to do something with such importance without mutually agreeing just because you think you're entitled to it.
It's pretty normal for guys to want more than one woman. It's pretty normal for women to want exclusivity.
I suppose your boyfriend deserves some credit for being honest about it, but he's made clear what he wants. If you're not willing to be just one of Mr Studly's women, then it would be wisest to say goodbye to him. Odds are good that he'll go for what he wants behind your back if you're not willing to be knowingly involved in that sort of relationship.
If your family thinks he's wonderful and there's even a hint that they believe the break-up must be your fault, tell them exactly what actually happened.
Dude that's fucked. And that's coming from somebody who lives in Utah. Maybe I just don't understand, but if he wants something other than you and what he has now I don't think he's inlove with you. I could never have another boyfriend unless I didn't have feelings for the guy I'm with right now. I think if my boyfriend told me he wanted another girlfriend out of the blue like that I'd dump him immediately. It's just not a good sign for your boyfriend to want somebody else like that.
I don't think there is a place in the world where this is not an issue for the woman, but there are and were certainly many cultures where it is officially accepted. Traditional islamic scholarship generally accepts men to take up to four wives, for instance, although this is today a controversial and debated topic within Islam.
is it way more complicated than just saying that "men can take up to four wives", there are conditions and rules for that, do more research, anyway, that's not the problem here
my problem here is that your partner told you he wants to have another girl and you told him you will THINK about it ? was he actually serious?
The fact that it is more complicated does not change the fact that it is so, and I said myself that it was more complicated above, so you are just failing at your reading abilites. About the OP post, yes, she may be serious. Polyamorous relationships are a thing in Western society, even though most people feel uncomfortable about the idea. If she really, really likes the guy or feel attached to him, perhaps she may feel it better to think about it rather than ditch him immediately. Only because I or you would not do so does not mean millions of people wouldn't in our place.
Not a good idea unless that's what she wants and the other woman is hypothetical so far anyway. Many men fantasise about exactly that setup, so he'd probably jump at her offer and, like many men, could very well find out that the women are far more interested in each other than in him.