This father actually reminds me of my own, so I pretty sure I understand the problem.
This is exactly the way he sees things.
The problem is it's his house and he does not see you as belonging there. He tolerates it because your dating his son, but that's about it. You described him as being indifferent that's because he is, he doesn't hate you but you're no one special to him either, your expecting a bond where he doesn't.
He goes into your space, eats your food, and uses your detergent because it's his house so he sees no issue, and the loud sex again his house he'll do what he wants.
You see yourself as having a voice because you pay rent whic is fair but he likely doesn't see it that way most likely because he doesn't care about the rent, he sees it as his house and you as a guest. Everything in the house is his so when you get upset it irritates him.
I feel like yes it is his house but it is a bit rude for him to help himself to my foods and soap and whatever else he wants without even asking. Once in awhile I wouldn't mind but he literally doesn't buy his own soap and just uses mine until it's gone and then he decides maybe he will buy his own. (Same with shampoos or whatever else he would like to nab from my bathroom) Also the loud sex part I find extremely rude as his bedroom is directly above mine. I know for a fact that my parents would never do this to my bf if he was staying with them. Maybe it would be different if I didn't have to actually live in the house and be around him all the time or if the floor levels were separate but idk to me it's just kind of a lack of consideration.
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OK I can explain this.
This father actually reminds me of my own, so I pretty sure I understand the problem.
This is exactly the way he sees things.
The problem is it's his house and he does not see you as belonging there. He tolerates it because your dating his son, but that's about it. You described him as being indifferent that's because he is, he doesn't hate you but you're no one special to him either, your expecting a bond where he doesn't.
He goes into your space, eats your food, and uses your detergent because it's his house so he sees no issue, and the loud sex again his house he'll do what he wants.
You see yourself as having a voice because you pay rent whic is fair but he likely doesn't see it that way most likely because he doesn't care about the rent, he sees it as his house and you as a guest. Everything in the house is his so when you get upset it irritates him.
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I feel like yes it is his house but it is a bit rude for him to help himself to my foods and soap and whatever else he wants without even asking. Once in awhile I wouldn't mind but he literally doesn't buy his own soap and just uses mine until it's gone and then he decides maybe he will buy his own. (Same with shampoos or whatever else he would like to nab from my bathroom) Also the loud sex part I find extremely rude as his bedroom is directly above mine. I know for a fact that my parents would never do this to my bf if he was staying with them. Maybe it would be different if I didn't have to actually live in the house and be around him all the time or if the floor levels were separate but idk to me it's just kind of a lack of consideration.