Is it normal my boyfriend is always distracted & always wants time alone?
Hi guys. My boyfriend is almost constantly busy/distracted doing his projects etc. I get it, I am very busy too, but I make time for ones I love. He WILL text me goodnight daily, & sometimes updates throughout day, but when we finally get together there’s no additional affection, just assumes I’ll come over etc. We sit & look at his projects & there is no “leisure” time.
If I come watch his projects, he’ll tolerate seeing me for 2-3 times a week. If it’s anything else, dinner etc., we’ll spend one evening together then he won’t ask to see me for another week. He is genuinely busy & distracted on projects.
I will ask him to come do stuff on weekends but he never wants to come, he is too distracted/busy. When I come with him places, we are just running his errands.
There’s not MUCH affection & im always getting him gifts, saying thoughtful things about his projects, but feel like he is always distracted & I’m not getting anything in return. I always look nice & ive never been complimented once.
It’s getting to the point where I feel so incredibly distant from him. He will go on vacations w/out me but I find out he was working the whole time. My trust/affection is pretty much broken & it’s hard. I stoped trying recently & got distant & he brought up that I haven’t been as affectionate
Am I being way too emotional or are most guys like this? I know guys are the “workhorses”. How can I get reciprocal affection?