Is it normal my boyfriend has jerking off habit on other woman's pic?

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I had been going out with my boyfriend for 2years now, he is 10years older than me and our sex life is so good.I learnt he has tendency watching porns I was ok with it but I found out lately he had been saving pictures of other woman stalking from there facebook or google, some are celebrities some r pornstars but what freaks me out more he jerks off seeing normal woman's pictures too, he likes MILFS and cheap vulgar actresses and pornstars, n he likes dirty talking while we have sex about 3some, im not gay i dont have urge for woman i like dirty talking too but only when it's only abt us, not including third imaginary person..i got so frustrated he stopped dirty talking though but he didnt stop jerking off on other woman's pictures!! i tried to stop him he kept on breaking promises finally i broke his laptop twice out of anger ,i thought he wont do it again but he did n i broke it again into pieces now i dont know his habit will change or what and now it's affecting our sex life!! before we used to have sex 4 times in a day now it only happens once or twice!! what shall i do to change his fetish it's killing me!!
It gives me insecurities and less confident, I am narcissist and I really love getting praising from my bf n love the feeling he is attracted only to me, but now his perversion making me less confidence I even stopped caring about my looks , I know i will go insane if I stop being narcissist !! his fetish is totally shaking up my confidence and leading me to depressions !! what shall I do?

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  • kapiko
    10 years ago | pl

    It's normal to feel a bit insecure and not like what he is doing but you have to accept it. It's his personal time and if he has a fetish for other things then so be it. Be happy that he isn't going off to some other girl for his desires.

    A lot of people look at porn while they are dating, it's normal and there isn't anything wrong with it. Just be respectful of this and trust him that it won't be anything more than just pictures and videos. He'll love you for being understanding. Breaking his laptop won't get him to trust you or see from your point of view, it'll only make him want to distance him self from you more.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    10 years ago | pl

    It's normal to have confidence problems, most people in this world today have poor or at least fluctuating self esteem.

    But it's not normal to blame your issues on someone else. I know where you're coming from I truly do, I too have pretty low self esteem at times. But porn and masturbation are harmless. It's something relatively everyone in the Western world does from time to time. And honestly I prefer amateur porn, I'd rather look at a real person than someone who's had 343242 plastic surgeries and a bleached asshole. XD

    But more to the point, you've gotta try to look at this from his perspective to understand. He sees it as harmless, so he feels resentful that you're trying to control him. And honestly breaking his laptop is going way too far :/ If someone had done that to me repeatedly I probably would have dumped them.

    If he loves you and has never given you any reason to worry aside from a few fantasies, I really don't see this as being such a bad thing.

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    • kiki_bliss
      10 years ago | pl

      I appreciate .. thanks... ll try to reconsider n look through his point of view..

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        10 years ago | pl

        I had another thought. What if you guys tried to do some pics and/or videos together? It could help make you feel sexy and fulfil his fetish.

        Plus it can be fun to sit down together, both of you talk about what turns you on. If you're giving leeway for his, then he should be willing to do some things for you too. ;P If theres things youre into that youve never done with him bring them up. It's always more fun for couples to explore the things they like together

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    10 years ago | pl

    Yo this is normal you crazy bitch, stop trying to control what he does in his free time by himself. He's not cheating on you! What is the big deal?

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    • kiki_bliss
      10 years ago | pl

      will u mind talking politely? it's shows totally from ur reply u dont know how to talk respectfully to a woman! n sure u havnt been in love so plz talk decently or no need to comment!!

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  • DanishGirl
    10 years ago | pl

    Masturbate to some dudes pic and see how he likes it.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago | pl

    I only do it when the wife is away. Having a wank without some sort of visual aid is very boring and practically impossible.

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  • kiki_bliss
    10 years ago | pl

    plz leave ur comments reading only da blog..ignore the options except "is it normal"
    thanks

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  • misca
    10 years ago | pl

    I hate it when the options are questions. It's like I'm choosing what I want to ask from the OP.

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