Thank you, bazwell. I had a serious talk with him and now I understand why this is happening: his stepfather was beating him and his mother almost every day for absolutely no reason when my bf was a kid. Will to protect himself and his mom forced him into fighting sports. After a few years, when my bf was approx 16-17, he beated his stepfather when he raised his hands on them again. After that stepfather has left the family.
As he said to me, every time he faces someone, he can see his stepfather, not his opponent, what brings extreme fury. This can also explain his tendency to pick more stronger opponents (his stepfather was way more stronger for a long time) and his desire to protect weaker people (like his mom and now me too).
I just don't understand why he never said anything about it. We've been together for years, why he was hiding it?
He agreed to visit psychotherapist in a few days. I hope this will help him to control himself and quit those fights with his friends.
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Thank you, bazwell. I had a serious talk with him and now I understand why this is happening: his stepfather was beating him and his mother almost every day for absolutely no reason when my bf was a kid. Will to protect himself and his mom forced him into fighting sports. After a few years, when my bf was approx 16-17, he beated his stepfather when he raised his hands on them again. After that stepfather has left the family.
As he said to me, every time he faces someone, he can see his stepfather, not his opponent, what brings extreme fury. This can also explain his tendency to pick more stronger opponents (his stepfather was way more stronger for a long time) and his desire to protect weaker people (like his mom and now me too).
I just don't understand why he never said anything about it. We've been together for years, why he was hiding it?
He agreed to visit psychotherapist in a few days. I hope this will help him to control himself and quit those fights with his friends.