It's weird to me that he'd suddenly come to that realisation at 20. Not saying it can't happen, but it's unusual. Typically as LGBT people (I hear this a lot, and it was true for me) we sense that something is "different" about us from a VERY young age, even if we're too young to understand what it is because it's dormant pre-puberty.
I think he's probably gay and has been in denial about it for a very long time. He's tried to make it work with you just to see if he can do it, but he's now learning he can't just decide not to be gay. If I were you, I'd end it with him and encourage him to go explore while he's single and not tied down. It's not fair on you to waste your life with a guy who doesn't really care for you. Especially right now, these are your best years when you can also experiment, and use this time to attract the best men you can find as potential life partners. You deserve more.
I'm bi but straight-leaning, and I thought I was just straight until less than a year ago (I'm 22). I can remember times I was attracted to other guys as a kid, but I didn't think much of them when they happened
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It's weird to me that he'd suddenly come to that realisation at 20. Not saying it can't happen, but it's unusual. Typically as LGBT people (I hear this a lot, and it was true for me) we sense that something is "different" about us from a VERY young age, even if we're too young to understand what it is because it's dormant pre-puberty.
I think he's probably gay and has been in denial about it for a very long time. He's tried to make it work with you just to see if he can do it, but he's now learning he can't just decide not to be gay. If I were you, I'd end it with him and encourage him to go explore while he's single and not tied down. It's not fair on you to waste your life with a guy who doesn't really care for you. Especially right now, these are your best years when you can also experiment, and use this time to attract the best men you can find as potential life partners. You deserve more.
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Maybe he just didn't face his feelings of feeling different. I feel different but I don't consider myself gay.
20 seems normal especially if he hasn't had much experience.
I'm bi but straight-leaning, and I thought I was just straight until less than a year ago (I'm 22). I can remember times I was attracted to other guys as a kid, but I didn't think much of them when they happened
Yea for sure, we know we're different and something's wrong but we just can't place it at such a young age, it sucks.
That's not weird at all and I don't believe unusual either