She seems very aware that she's sending mixed signals to men. How would it be the man's fault in this particular situation if he thinks she is showing signs of attraction because of the kind of body language she's exhibiting? Don't give me a bunch of retarded feminist bullshit either. I hate that crap.
No, she seems aware that no matter what she does besides being outright rude gets misinterpreted as an invitation for a date/sex.
It's quite common. Guys see what they want to see.A guy will think a girl purposely did any innocent act as indication that she wants him. General politeness included.
It's an impossible game. You are either asking for it or you are a bitch/tease when neither of those things are true.
She's not aware of this or she wouldn't have asked the question.
So men can't control whether not they grope a woman they THINK is showing certain signs? You have a much lower opinion of men than I do as a feminist. It doesn't matter what they think she's doing or not doing, they can still choose how to respond.
Who knows what she considers groping. People embellish their stories. Maybe the guy just placed his hand on her shoulder. She's confused about the false signals she's giving men and she came on here to get advice. I think my advice is perfectly sound. It doesn't hurt to take a step back and really think about how you are interacting with others.
And of course women embellish their stories and she's giving false signals. She's not confused about what she's doing but you are. Maybe you should take a step back and really think about your misogyny
I'd like to hear from the OP on this. Not some feminist idiot. OP? Chime in on this. You already stirred up enough trouble by making this thread so the least you could do is give us some more information so we can figure this whole thing out.
Oops I wrote a comment on this but probably forgot to press the post button or something... :-O
What I wrote before is that I dislike Ellenna's comment. I doubt you are a misogynist, calling names hardly solves anything, and at least you tried to say something helpful. But of course this problem is more then just me being a people pleaser with low awareness of my body language. I am basically tired of advances from men when I work. Mind you, it happens only in my workplace, because I am obligated to be nice to customers. I am very aware of what I'm doing. But I fail to convey "this is not personal, it's my job to be nice to you"
I doubt @:buncho's_butt is a misogynist: He seems like he genuinely wants to help me, he is very respectful in his comments. IDK if morality is on your side or his, but my situation is more complicated than "men are pigs", I think. And coming here calling people names does not help me. At least Boncho made an attempt.
I consider groping any kind of physical contact without my consent, while done for the sexual pleasure of the groping party. Placing hand on shoulder can count as well if done with that intent...
P.S. I had a manager where I work give me a friendly hug (I consedered him a friend then) and then he said "I hope it felt as nice to you as it did for me". It felt horrible.
IIN men seem to misinterpret me being nice as invitation for sex
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She seems very aware that she's sending mixed signals to men. How would it be the man's fault in this particular situation if he thinks she is showing signs of attraction because of the kind of body language she's exhibiting? Don't give me a bunch of retarded feminist bullshit either. I hate that crap.
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No, she seems aware that no matter what she does besides being outright rude gets misinterpreted as an invitation for a date/sex.
It's quite common. Guys see what they want to see.A guy will think a girl purposely did any innocent act as indication that she wants him. General politeness included.
It's an impossible game. You are either asking for it or you are a bitch/tease when neither of those things are true.
She's not aware of this or she wouldn't have asked the question.
So men can't control whether not they grope a woman they THINK is showing certain signs? You have a much lower opinion of men than I do as a feminist. It doesn't matter what they think she's doing or not doing, they can still choose how to respond.
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Who knows what she considers groping. People embellish their stories. Maybe the guy just placed his hand on her shoulder. She's confused about the false signals she's giving men and she came on here to get advice. I think my advice is perfectly sound. It doesn't hurt to take a step back and really think about how you are interacting with others.
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And of course women embellish their stories and she's giving false signals. She's not confused about what she's doing but you are. Maybe you should take a step back and really think about your misogyny
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I'd like to hear from the OP on this. Not some feminist idiot. OP? Chime in on this. You already stirred up enough trouble by making this thread so the least you could do is give us some more information so we can figure this whole thing out.
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Oops I wrote a comment on this but probably forgot to press the post button or something... :-O
What I wrote before is that I dislike Ellenna's comment. I doubt you are a misogynist, calling names hardly solves anything, and at least you tried to say something helpful. But of course this problem is more then just me being a people pleaser with low awareness of my body language. I am basically tired of advances from men when I work. Mind you, it happens only in my workplace, because I am obligated to be nice to customers. I am very aware of what I'm doing. But I fail to convey "this is not personal, it's my job to be nice to you"
I doubt @:buncho's_butt is a misogynist: He seems like he genuinely wants to help me, he is very respectful in his comments. IDK if morality is on your side or his, but my situation is more complicated than "men are pigs", I think. And coming here calling people names does not help me. At least Boncho made an attempt.
I consider groping any kind of physical contact without my consent, while done for the sexual pleasure of the groping party. Placing hand on shoulder can count as well if done with that intent...
P.S. I had a manager where I work give me a friendly hug (I consedered him a friend then) and then he said "I hope it felt as nice to you as it did for me". It felt horrible.