Is it normal im scared of sex?

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Im a virgin and honestly it has not been easy to stay one. Why? Because i love affection! When its getting to the point i cannot help but get excited and do the damn thang. But but i dont know if hes the one i wanna lose it too, maybe theres a better way to do it (im a perfectionist)and i should just wait when its special but everytime im hooking up, it is special im not just hooking up with anyone. Ahhh. And last for now, im weak when it comes to pain, do i need to say more? Well, yeah im hella scared its gonna hurt like a mother and when hes just getting it in, im gonna call it quits cause thats what i do when im feeling pain is stop whether its a vaccine shot or im pushing myself too hard. So yeah, i know of stories the first time is absolutely painful plus i cant stand pain just makes me terrified and think, am i ever going to have sex? Cause im chicken like that even with sex!? As said earlier, i love affection but is pain going to take that away from me once i do the real thing? Im scared =/

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  • Evilcor
    13 years ago

    Your hymen doesn't mean anything. Do you like him? Do you think he'll be patient and listen to you? If not, it'll take maybe 5 minutes to find someone who will. Just walk right up and announce you're a horny virgin - when the riot police show up to control the crowd, find one who's not wearing a wedding ring.

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    • sparrowfeed
      13 years ago

      LOL. i like that idea.
      too bad i'm not a virgin anymore, though.
      e,

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  • bam361
    13 years ago | pl

    finger ur self and break ur heymen use 1-2 fingers it wont hurt as much when go to do it

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    It honestly doesn't hurt that bad. If anything you might say owch once and there may/may not be blood. My first time meant nothing really it wasn't that special so just get it over with so that you can enjoy sex with a guy who you think is worth it.

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  • rg1985
    13 years ago

    Agreed - Film it and share

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  • theupsides
    13 years ago

    Yeah I didn't take the time to actually read all that, but my guess is you're probably gay.

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  • Scrat
    13 years ago

    Agree with the comment above

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  • cbaby32
    13 years ago

    ya'll didnt even find out if you were giving a 12 or even 10 yr old child advise about losing her verginity...

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Agree with bam631

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  • ajayy_21
    13 years ago

    Well I'm a virgin too and I know what you mean. The temptation is there but you just have to listen to you heart and not your urges. Is it REALLY worth? You have to think of what's goin to happen afterwards. Sex isn't just physical but emotional as well. I hear that sex doesn't have to be as painful ad people say it is. If you're "wet" enough you should be ok so that means lots of foreplay!! I used to be afraid of the possible "pain" factor but not anymore. Just wait and trust your gut. Nothing wrong with waiting. After all "good things come to those who wait"

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    • sparrowfeed
      13 years ago

      Lol.. its ridiculous how much your vag expands, though. also, why don't you have some wine before you do it? it'll make it more comfortable.
      as well, don't go right away into it. you should try experimenting a little.. yourself or with your partner. once you get into a relationship, your partner will likely be concerned about the pain for you, and you will do things together that will make sex easier later on.

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  • sparrowfeed
    13 years ago

    if he's considerate, he'll use some fingers on you first.

    also, preferably be a little drunk for your first time. i mean, c'mon.

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  • PINK-LOVE
    11 years ago

    I dont want to give you the wrong impression. I NEED LOVE AND AFFECTION

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  • xsavealifex
    13 years ago

    Sigh. Your first time is supposed to be special. You're lucky. Yours still can be. This guy doesn't sound like the one...you don't sound that into him from what I gather. Just my 2 cents.

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  • jilian
    13 years ago

    I agree with 8serene8 it doesn't hurt much and only for about 2 seconds. You may say owch but it won't be nearly as bad as you think.

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  • brighteyesmck
    13 years ago

    get real drunk your first time it will not hurt.
    don't be scarred though you need to just let it happen. sex is seriously such a natural thing, and there can be many different emotions towards it, but when sex does happen everything goes blank you don't think much... the only thing you think about is how to make it better to make yourself have the best sex ever... after is the only time where you will either regret it or continue to have sex with that same person the next night so have fun with it... life is too short to be scared of sex when it is such a natural and cool thing. being horny is awesome so get horny and have sex.
    do it.

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  • kdasilva
    13 years ago

    It's all up hill after the first time

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  • SecretFromHell
    13 years ago

    NO its normal too be scared but it isent that painful if u can talk a piriod u can take this :D

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