Is it normal im completely emotionally detached at 18

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For a backstory/explanation I have just finished a semester in college, and I think the problem started when my grandparents passed away and I lost it, I've been mildly depressed most of my life but ever since then I haven't felt much emotion, other than being scared that i'm losing my emotions, i'm not able to cry like I used to be able to. While that might sound like a good thing, I don't think i'm recovering, I think i'm getting worse. I often don't respond to people when they're talking to me, and when I have made friends in college, I wait until they develop an emotional connection to me, or mess up, so I have an excuse to get away from them. I've been trying to find someone thats honestly just trying to be friends with me without caring too much for me. For some reason I become uncomfortable when someone starts to care about me and I don't know why but I always have to push people away, this has been the case for as long as I can remember, I grow to hate everyone I get to know. I preface most of my relationships in college with the fact that them caring about me is going to make me uncomfortable, but this often goes over their head. I used to be the kid who always cared about others, mostly i'm wondering if its normal that I am completely comfortable alone, and that I can't feel the emotions I used to for some reason, like i'm not able to cry or love anymore, and will these emotions ever come back.

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  • SFG123
    4 years ago

    try your best to cry and to feel love. if you're struggling with crying try to do it more regularly and also make a crying noise you will eventually shed tears and for love just throw yourself in the deep end and find someone who you get on with and ask them out

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  • UselessTrash2
    5 years ago

    I'm kinda similar, except for me it's not because someone I loved died (atleast I don't think) it's more that I know if I make friends they're eventually going to leave or I'll start to get annoyed with them so I just avoid getting attached all together. Sometimes I wish I wasnt like that but on occasions when one of my acquaintances suddenly ghosts me, disappears, or whatever I'm kinda happy I don't get attached. I don't know how this is supposed to help with your situation but I just wanted to share.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Where's the poll?

    By the way, what you are describing is neither normal, nor is it healthy, dear heart. You're never gonna have happy relationships if you don't sort this out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Felt like this for nearly two years after my dad passed away in 2016. It was basically my body putting up a wall in fear that if I loved something it’d just die. It’s actually a fear what you’re describing. You don’t want to get too attached to anything incase it suddenly dies.

    I got out of it by getting a summer job and helping other people that felt this way. I assure you, your feelings will come back, but they’ll be different. Hopefully in a good way.

    Until then, I’d suggest a therapist/counselor or getting a job in which you interact with a lot of people.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Simple solution. Get a good job and once the money starts flowing in you won’t feel bad anymore.

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  • Gland
    5 years ago

    You are becoming bitter because when you're young you are pretty fragile/weak no matters what young people said. Don't waste your time being sad or you will become an huge pussy with nothing in life. Yes people die even those that you love but it does not mean that you should stop living your life, this is an insult to your grandparents and parents that dedicated an incredible amount of their life for you to be there. Being sad is perfectly okay but it's also an incredible waste of time.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Where's the poll?

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    • Iridocyclitis
      5 years ago

      I . added it

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Thanks.

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