Is this usual behavior for her? If it's not, then I would say she had a panic attack, which aren't worth ruining your friendship over. She simply got nervous in an awkward social situation and over-reacted. She's going to have to learn to live with this, though. Yes, it is creepy to take a bus as a 19 year old girl alone, but it's not necessarily unsafe. Just sit up front by the driver and listen to headphones. Basically, find your small reassurances in an awkward social situation and ride the rest out. *Through teeth* And try not to stare at the old guy with a crazy eye and beard who's staring at you. Pretend you don't notice.
For the record, I was also scared when I was 19 and had to take the bus and be alone for a while. It is scary. Guys who are old enough to be your dad blatantly hit on you, people gawk at you, ask you if you want drugs, if you 'party' aka get high and fuck 40 year olds, you get harassed, sometimes the creeps follow you off the bus 'Oh, not my stop, just wanted to hang.' That's scary for anyone, let a 19 year old girl. Not that anyone can solve those problems for her.. Unfortunately, she's going to have to learn that she's an adult now and she's her own responsibility. Nobody is going to help her, and they aren't obligated to. It's a rude and cruel awakening.
I undestand some countries are cruel and dangerous, but around here the most dangeroues thing around is a dog who once bite a girl. I live in Europe in a small country in a small city where we almost don't know what is rape. I mean bad things happen here, is not that we are imune to that sort of things, but living here is kinda safe. Her problem is that she lives in a place where arent many people, so she isn't sociolaze as you think. She is like a cave girl, she doesn't really know what is "allowed" to do. She lose every friend in a year or so, but I stick with her because I know it's her fault, but she doesn't know that, and i'm not really bothered by that. Whenewer something like that happened, she gets angry on me, like when I can't do something for her she droop a phone or sth. like that and say to me that we are over, like don't call me any more and that shit. But in a few days she always call me and act normal.
In a September she goes in school in our capital city, where she will be sorounded with many people and I'm keep telling her that she won't find many friends if that's continue. I study in our capital city in work days and at weekends I get home so I think I know what I'm talking about, but I get your point, in some places I would be scary too, if I had to go out alone.
IIN if your friend freak out, because you can't go out with her?
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Is this usual behavior for her? If it's not, then I would say she had a panic attack, which aren't worth ruining your friendship over. She simply got nervous in an awkward social situation and over-reacted. She's going to have to learn to live with this, though. Yes, it is creepy to take a bus as a 19 year old girl alone, but it's not necessarily unsafe. Just sit up front by the driver and listen to headphones. Basically, find your small reassurances in an awkward social situation and ride the rest out. *Through teeth* And try not to stare at the old guy with a crazy eye and beard who's staring at you. Pretend you don't notice.
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For the record, I was also scared when I was 19 and had to take the bus and be alone for a while. It is scary. Guys who are old enough to be your dad blatantly hit on you, people gawk at you, ask you if you want drugs, if you 'party' aka get high and fuck 40 year olds, you get harassed, sometimes the creeps follow you off the bus 'Oh, not my stop, just wanted to hang.' That's scary for anyone, let a 19 year old girl. Not that anyone can solve those problems for her.. Unfortunately, she's going to have to learn that she's an adult now and she's her own responsibility. Nobody is going to help her, and they aren't obligated to. It's a rude and cruel awakening.
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For others on here, she isn't a control freak, she's a scared kid.
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I undestand some countries are cruel and dangerous, but around here the most dangeroues thing around is a dog who once bite a girl. I live in Europe in a small country in a small city where we almost don't know what is rape. I mean bad things happen here, is not that we are imune to that sort of things, but living here is kinda safe. Her problem is that she lives in a place where arent many people, so she isn't sociolaze as you think. She is like a cave girl, she doesn't really know what is "allowed" to do. She lose every friend in a year or so, but I stick with her because I know it's her fault, but she doesn't know that, and i'm not really bothered by that. Whenewer something like that happened, she gets angry on me, like when I can't do something for her she droop a phone or sth. like that and say to me that we are over, like don't call me any more and that shit. But in a few days she always call me and act normal.
In a September she goes in school in our capital city, where she will be sorounded with many people and I'm keep telling her that she won't find many friends if that's continue. I study in our capital city in work days and at weekends I get home so I think I know what I'm talking about, but I get your point, in some places I would be scary too, if I had to go out alone.