Congrats on your marriage ! And forgive me for asking you this it would be a whole lot easier if she was just your Gf but does your wife also have everything you WANTED in a girl like your ex did ? Because sometimes I feel like people end up being w another person just because they're good to them but you have to also like them as your type of girl/guy to date
Thank you and it's fine to ask. Yes, my wife does also give me what I wanted in a partner as well with a few exceptions that I realized are okay not to have. When I lost my ex, I was still searching for someone with all the characteristics she had but my now wife didn't have a few of those qualities when we were dating. I know I acknowledged that at the time but after a few dates, I realized she was actually better and different than my ex in so many great ways. I actually don't even mind one bit as I get 10 times more out of the relationship than I actually would have with my ex. Every time I reflect on my relationship with my ex, I now see characteristics she didn't have that I actually needed all along.
I think when you find someone else whom you also share a connection with(I'm sure you will), you will be able to think the same way I do. You'll put your ex in a different perspective and will actually see their flaws and acknowledge characteristics that your current partner has but your ex actually never had. For me, this made me realize that even if my ex came back into my life, I'd happily walk away from her as I would no longer get fulfillment of a relationship with her.
You think this guy is the only person for you but that's exactly how I thought of my ex. I thought she was the only woman in the Universe I could ever be with forever. There's definitely another connection out there waiting to happen for you and you'll know it because he won't ever question your relationship and will stay with you forever.
IIN if you don't want to get over your ex?
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Congrats on your marriage ! And forgive me for asking you this it would be a whole lot easier if she was just your Gf but does your wife also have everything you WANTED in a girl like your ex did ? Because sometimes I feel like people end up being w another person just because they're good to them but you have to also like them as your type of girl/guy to date
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Thank you and it's fine to ask. Yes, my wife does also give me what I wanted in a partner as well with a few exceptions that I realized are okay not to have. When I lost my ex, I was still searching for someone with all the characteristics she had but my now wife didn't have a few of those qualities when we were dating. I know I acknowledged that at the time but after a few dates, I realized she was actually better and different than my ex in so many great ways. I actually don't even mind one bit as I get 10 times more out of the relationship than I actually would have with my ex. Every time I reflect on my relationship with my ex, I now see characteristics she didn't have that I actually needed all along.
I think when you find someone else whom you also share a connection with(I'm sure you will), you will be able to think the same way I do. You'll put your ex in a different perspective and will actually see their flaws and acknowledge characteristics that your current partner has but your ex actually never had. For me, this made me realize that even if my ex came back into my life, I'd happily walk away from her as I would no longer get fulfillment of a relationship with her.
You think this guy is the only person for you but that's exactly how I thought of my ex. I thought she was the only woman in the Universe I could ever be with forever. There's definitely another connection out there waiting to happen for you and you'll know it because he won't ever question your relationship and will stay with you forever.