Is it normal if my cousin & i give in to a mutual crush & have sex?

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I have an attraction to my cousin. We'll call him Cici. He gives me his number so we can go out to clubs & hangout together. Sounds innocent but thing is when we were 9, we had a sexual relationship. He would laugh at me when I got spanked by our Grandma but once we were alone he would cuddle me to make me feel better & tell me how much he cares then we'd kiss,grind,& 69. I stopped being sexual with Cici because I was being abused by other older cousins when they found out I was consensually sexual with him. They were caught abusing me but my family made it seem like it was consensually so they kept me away from my male cousin, including Cici.
Now he comes to me years later, just trying to be cool but I can see that I am still his secret crush & if he ever get a chance to be alone with me the truth will come out because he is my secret crush also. I love him like heck as family. I admire him as a person. I know the sex would be emotionally deep & satisfying. I know he feels the same about me.
Please vote & comment

Have sex once to get it out of our system. 40
Keep avoiding him. 13
Do it. 100
Tell him we can be cool but we can't have sex. 20
Other 9
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  • wigsplitz
    12 years ago

    Wait till after Thanksgiving and Christmas, silly. Awkward....

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  • A_Slice_of_Life
    12 years ago

    You only live once.

    Do it.

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  • Mason334
    11 years ago

    I love my femaile cousin we've had sexual encounters kinda like you and cici but I wouldn't have sex with her I comfort her but I'm not gona go to town im related barly but related anyway I have a gf and I didn't know what sex was so maybe if I was 4 again but I have a sweet gf that loves me

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  • deepfull
    12 years ago

    marry him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Am I the only one that thinks it's not a good idea to go ahead with a relationship with him? And I would recommend counselling for the sexual abuse.

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    • dom180
      12 years ago

      I agree. I think the reason why you want to have sex with Cici is because you want to go back to a time before the abuse happened, and the only way you can see to do that is to have sex with Cici, because that is what happened before the abuse. DEFINITELY go for counselling for this.

      Of course, I could be wrong, and in that case just go nuts. I doubt it though, there is always a reason behind stuff like this.

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      • NormalAsNorman6
        12 years ago

        Well I'm suppose to see him today. He was invite by my bff to her hotel party. She doesn't know about anything. I been living by just not see him but I want to face him because I want to know how he's been. Everything aside I miss him as family. I feel it would not be right to have sex with him but I feel like he would overpower me. I kinda do want to but just a small voice says no. I'm trying to listen to that. I have no choice but to say something tonight because I can't not go to my besties party.
        I'm gonna mention what u said to him tho because b4 my cousin hurt me we were happy. Cici was hurt also because they took me from him and didn't mind abusing me in front of him. He just got threatened like I did. They tried to make him join in but he tried to be gentle with me & they called him names & kicked him out. They forced him to lookout & I know he let Grandma catch them so it would stop but he got thrown in with them & I was kept away from him also. Without them Cici & I would have grown of our discovery phase. I'm just scared of him now, of doing something we'll regret later. I still feel unprepared but thank a million!!! for the advice.

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        • dom180
          12 years ago

          It sounds to me like you have a fairly dysfunctional family all round, but you've found the root of your own problem. Just do what you think is right. Always happy to help :)

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  • lease
    12 years ago

    You sound like a tool.

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  • Gelmurag
    12 years ago

    If your particular cultural upbringing has no issues with incest, by all means, it sounds like its something you both need. some cultures have rules about such things, but moral/ethics have no basis for the heart. Just be careful, and take it slow, because if one of you hurts the other, it might destroy the relationship.

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  • Avada4567
    10 years ago

    Hey, man just have sex with him. But there are chances you might get more attracted to him after the sex.

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  • Liliania
    11 years ago

    I swear i thought i wrote this. I think next time im alone with my cuz im going to go for it. I dont think i can help myself. I can see that he loves me and i know ive loved him for a long time. However we are not blood related.

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  • kaley14
    11 years ago

    Hunny wht the hell are u with a 29 year old ue suppose to be n school lookin at little boys not a 29 year old man and im 100% sure he is gonna get arrested and i dont thnik u hve two kids
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  • Ryan556
    11 years ago

    Cuddling ok kiss ok grinding i I guess but 69ing is wrong

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  • MAIRzY
    12 years ago

    My fuking fit i soo wub

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  • Alkibiades
    12 years ago

    It's hard to be objective and advise when it's so damn titillating.

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  • Audrina
    12 years ago

    This has DELIVERANCE written all over it.

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  • JWilson1
    12 years ago

    That's Fucked

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    • NormalAsNorman6
      12 years ago

      I know.

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