Is it normal if my boyfriend keeps complimenting other women but me?

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It's been a year to our relationship. Sometimes I feel like we're loosing the grip. First month he was so nice to me, he used to compliment my appearance.
The second month we moved in together. Every time he used to directly or indirectly compare me with his ex. I used to cry.. stupid, right? Very often he says he wants me to gain some more weight. I'M sure he has a long list of my flaws. "chubby girls are great" "just look at you.. not at all girly" I've been hearing this for quite some time now. I've noticed him checking out other girls too.
I've lost confidence in myself.. I really don't want to go anywhere with him, I'm kinda embarrassed of my size and my appearance.
What should I do? I don't wanna lose this guy either. Advise please!

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  • Columbusbiguy
    5 years ago | pl

    Everyone says he is a jerk on the comments here and he probably is. But what the fuck is the matter with you moving in with someone after being together for one month? You are just to blame for your situation as you need to make better decisions. Leave or stay, I don't know but you need to actually think about consequences before making life decisions.

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    • Temari_uchiha
      5 years ago

      I was too naive..

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      • Columbusbiguy
        5 years ago

        Well now you know. Next time slow down and consider the downsides before you act. We always look at the fun but never consider the bad. Its time to probably move along.

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  • YourMomIsGae
    5 years ago

    Leave him!!! You shouldn't have to change for him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    You say you don’t want to lose him. But that’s exactly what you should do. LEAVE

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  • Handyman
    5 years ago

    Leave him! He is making excuses to look at other woman. Do not go the chubby way to please him.

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    • Temari_uchiha
      5 years ago

      Yup I would never change myself.. but then again it feels bad..

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      • Handyman
        5 years ago

        The bad will go away, but you will always be with yourself. Happy.

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        • Temari_uchiha
          5 years ago

          Thank you so much! 😁

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          • Handyman
            5 years ago

            Good luck!

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  • megadriver
    5 years ago

    I say leave him... Comparing your partner to your ex is never a good idea. It's a sign you're not committed to a relationship fully when you do this. Guy sounds like a scumbag. He should accept you for who you are and see the beauty in that. Everything else is just being a shallow muppet that will always have a plan B ready and possibly use it and cheat, while still with you.

    If you know it's not gonna work out, at least do the man thing and be honest. Never make a girl go head over heels for you, when you aren't gonna do the same.

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    • BlindSpot
      5 years ago

      Take this advice. Dump the arsehole. He will probs cheat on you anyway and this is disrespectful...he isn't over his ex and is using you as collateral. Tell him to fuck off

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  • Dot123
    5 years ago

    You don't need no man telling you what to do.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Leave him now! It WILL NOT get any better!

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Dump his shitty, controlling ass! He's probably a narcissistic abuser.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    He's a disrespectful arsehole and you deserve better. Leave him.

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  • mm6969
    5 years ago

    Do you diserve compliments, or do you just want them

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    You can do better than that. He's not the right person for you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Maybe you’re just not hawt enough?

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