And you still say you love this arsehole? There's nothing much there to even like, let alone love: you deserve better but you won't get it from him.
What form does the being "rough" with you in public take? If you mean physical roughness, it's time you got out of there fast. The rest of his behaviour is evidence he knows he can get away with anything with you because you "love" him and if his obvious contempt for you is also expressed physically, it's time you got away from him.
The part of you that's justifiably angry with him and wants to end it is healthy: listen to it!
Thanks for clarification: however I still think he's treating you really badly both in public and in private and it's entirely normal for you to be upset about that and to want to end it. I can't see any future for this relationship except more of the same so I'm still wondering why you're still in it.
You can't change anyone else, but you can change your response to the situation by either accepting he treats you badly and you love him so much you'll go on putting up with it, or get out.... I recommend the latter
Yep, Ive given him enough chances and every time felt right. Now, I think my ego has come back and if I give him another chance, I'll feel disgusted by myself. So basically I'm going to let him know that I am not a bitch or psycho first of all because of how I feel for him, that what I told whitestallion that my intentions are only to love him and trust me he is a good guy to where he will understannd me. But if he doesn't believe me and is stubborn about his opnion of me being a bitch, then I am out...especially on top WHY I might be acting like a bitch, all the reasons he gives me. He treats me basically like I don't deserve but he thinks I do deserve it cause I'm a bitch. If I were really a bitch then okay I understand I don't deserve the world, but knowing that theres no reason why he should look at me that way and therefore treat me accordingly without thinking twice, thats just frustrating and someone else will get the love from me and see it and appreciate it.
Do you know the saying about people who keep doing the same thing but expecting a different outcome? That's what you're doing. I see no evidence that he's a "good guy", only that you're putting up with crap from him over and over again ....
IIN if I want to break up with him because he thinks I'm a bitch?
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And you still say you love this arsehole? There's nothing much there to even like, let alone love: you deserve better but you won't get it from him.
What form does the being "rough" with you in public take? If you mean physical roughness, it's time you got out of there fast. The rest of his behaviour is evidence he knows he can get away with anything with you because you "love" him and if his obvious contempt for you is also expressed physically, it's time you got away from him.
The part of you that's justifiably angry with him and wants to end it is healthy: listen to it!
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Maybe rough was the wrong term but more like careless, nothing physical. More like w words I guess.
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Thanks for clarification: however I still think he's treating you really badly both in public and in private and it's entirely normal for you to be upset about that and to want to end it. I can't see any future for this relationship except more of the same so I'm still wondering why you're still in it.
You can't change anyone else, but you can change your response to the situation by either accepting he treats you badly and you love him so much you'll go on putting up with it, or get out.... I recommend the latter
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Yep, Ive given him enough chances and every time felt right. Now, I think my ego has come back and if I give him another chance, I'll feel disgusted by myself. So basically I'm going to let him know that I am not a bitch or psycho first of all because of how I feel for him, that what I told whitestallion that my intentions are only to love him and trust me he is a good guy to where he will understannd me. But if he doesn't believe me and is stubborn about his opnion of me being a bitch, then I am out...especially on top WHY I might be acting like a bitch, all the reasons he gives me. He treats me basically like I don't deserve but he thinks I do deserve it cause I'm a bitch. If I were really a bitch then okay I understand I don't deserve the world, but knowing that theres no reason why he should look at me that way and therefore treat me accordingly without thinking twice, thats just frustrating and someone else will get the love from me and see it and appreciate it.
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Do you know the saying about people who keep doing the same thing but expecting a different outcome? That's what you're doing. I see no evidence that he's a "good guy", only that you're putting up with crap from him over and over again ....