It doesn't seem like he wants to break up or leave me cause I'm a bitch but its more like I want to leave him cause he thinks that of me. Why would I want to be w someone who thinks something wrong of me? I want him to seee me as someone who lifts him up higher , someone friendly he can always come to cause that's what I genuinely do for him but he doesn't see it or appreciates it.
What has he done to bring that side of me? I think I did mention it somewhere here but I'll do it again ...
He doesn't present or show that I'm his Gf in public, he doesn't take me seriously when I talk about the same things he talks to me about, every time I just want have a conversation bout something he thinks I want to argue but he's just jumping to conclusions, he can be rough w me and disrespectful and inconsiderate of me in public, hell be nice to others but not me, and more. I get irritated at the end of the day but I don't think its to the point of a "bitch". I'll show him a real bitch and hell miss me being sweet to him.
And you still say you love this arsehole? There's nothing much there to even like, let alone love: you deserve better but you won't get it from him.
What form does the being "rough" with you in public take? If you mean physical roughness, it's time you got out of there fast. The rest of his behaviour is evidence he knows he can get away with anything with you because you "love" him and if his obvious contempt for you is also expressed physically, it's time you got away from him.
The part of you that's justifiably angry with him and wants to end it is healthy: listen to it!
Thanks for clarification: however I still think he's treating you really badly both in public and in private and it's entirely normal for you to be upset about that and to want to end it. I can't see any future for this relationship except more of the same so I'm still wondering why you're still in it.
You can't change anyone else, but you can change your response to the situation by either accepting he treats you badly and you love him so much you'll go on putting up with it, or get out.... I recommend the latter
Yep, Ive given him enough chances and every time felt right. Now, I think my ego has come back and if I give him another chance, I'll feel disgusted by myself. So basically I'm going to let him know that I am not a bitch or psycho first of all because of how I feel for him, that what I told whitestallion that my intentions are only to love him and trust me he is a good guy to where he will understannd me. But if he doesn't believe me and is stubborn about his opnion of me being a bitch, then I am out...especially on top WHY I might be acting like a bitch, all the reasons he gives me. He treats me basically like I don't deserve but he thinks I do deserve it cause I'm a bitch. If I were really a bitch then okay I understand I don't deserve the world, but knowing that theres no reason why he should look at me that way and therefore treat me accordingly without thinking twice, thats just frustrating and someone else will get the love from me and see it and appreciate it.
Do you know the saying about people who keep doing the same thing but expecting a different outcome? That's what you're doing. I see no evidence that he's a "good guy", only that you're putting up with crap from him over and over again ....
Yeah its like I love talking about him to my friends and family and I just have a feeling he doesn't do the same. Its irritating that he doesn't see how much I like being w him but he makes it seem like I'm a bitch so therefore, why would he want to talk about his girl when she's a bitch? But I'm not and idk how to make him think otherwise. I've already told him "I'm not crazy" and he goes "pple who say they're not crazy are crazy." Then hell see I'm upset and he goes "OK ur not crazy I'll leave it at that" just so I can shut up
IIN if I want to break up with him because he thinks I'm a bitch?
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It doesn't seem like he wants to break up or leave me cause I'm a bitch but its more like I want to leave him cause he thinks that of me. Why would I want to be w someone who thinks something wrong of me? I want him to seee me as someone who lifts him up higher , someone friendly he can always come to cause that's what I genuinely do for him but he doesn't see it or appreciates it.
What has he done to bring that side of me? I think I did mention it somewhere here but I'll do it again ...
He doesn't present or show that I'm his Gf in public, he doesn't take me seriously when I talk about the same things he talks to me about, every time I just want have a conversation bout something he thinks I want to argue but he's just jumping to conclusions, he can be rough w me and disrespectful and inconsiderate of me in public, hell be nice to others but not me, and more. I get irritated at the end of the day but I don't think its to the point of a "bitch". I'll show him a real bitch and hell miss me being sweet to him.
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And you still say you love this arsehole? There's nothing much there to even like, let alone love: you deserve better but you won't get it from him.
What form does the being "rough" with you in public take? If you mean physical roughness, it's time you got out of there fast. The rest of his behaviour is evidence he knows he can get away with anything with you because you "love" him and if his obvious contempt for you is also expressed physically, it's time you got away from him.
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Maybe rough was the wrong term but more like careless, nothing physical. More like w words I guess.
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Thanks for clarification: however I still think he's treating you really badly both in public and in private and it's entirely normal for you to be upset about that and to want to end it. I can't see any future for this relationship except more of the same so I'm still wondering why you're still in it.
You can't change anyone else, but you can change your response to the situation by either accepting he treats you badly and you love him so much you'll go on putting up with it, or get out.... I recommend the latter
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Yep, Ive given him enough chances and every time felt right. Now, I think my ego has come back and if I give him another chance, I'll feel disgusted by myself. So basically I'm going to let him know that I am not a bitch or psycho first of all because of how I feel for him, that what I told whitestallion that my intentions are only to love him and trust me he is a good guy to where he will understannd me. But if he doesn't believe me and is stubborn about his opnion of me being a bitch, then I am out...especially on top WHY I might be acting like a bitch, all the reasons he gives me. He treats me basically like I don't deserve but he thinks I do deserve it cause I'm a bitch. If I were really a bitch then okay I understand I don't deserve the world, but knowing that theres no reason why he should look at me that way and therefore treat me accordingly without thinking twice, thats just frustrating and someone else will get the love from me and see it and appreciate it.
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Do you know the saying about people who keep doing the same thing but expecting a different outcome? That's what you're doing. I see no evidence that he's a "good guy", only that you're putting up with crap from him over and over again ....
Well honestly who wants to stay when you think so little of them? I would not want to stay either.
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Yeah its like I love talking about him to my friends and family and I just have a feeling he doesn't do the same. Its irritating that he doesn't see how much I like being w him but he makes it seem like I'm a bitch so therefore, why would he want to talk about his girl when she's a bitch? But I'm not and idk how to make him think otherwise. I've already told him "I'm not crazy" and he goes "pple who say they're not crazy are crazy." Then hell see I'm upset and he goes "OK ur not crazy I'll leave it at that" just so I can shut up
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OP, you CAN'T change anyone else, stop trying and get a life for yourself away from this arsehole